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How to Create Secure, Lasting Love in a Long-Term Relationship with Dr. Stan Tatkin | 60

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Jun 1, 2025
Join Dr. Stan Tatkin, a clinician and relationship expert, as he dives into the dynamics of secure love. He explains the difference between secure attachment and secure functioning, revealing how early experiences shape our relationships. Discover why shared purpose is vital for intimacy and learn to become a 'whisperer' for your partner. Dr. Tatkin also shares insights on the biggest mistakes in modern dating and emphasizes the importance of self-love and genuine apologies in nurturing lasting bonds. Tune in for transformative tips on cultivating deep connections!
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Secure Functioning vs Attachment

  • Secure functioning differs from secure attachment by focusing on cooperative agreements between partners.
  • It involves a two-person psychological system with fairness, sensitivity, and mutual engagement.
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Roots of Attachment Styles

  • Attachment styles derive from early experience with caregivers' attunement or inconsistency.
  • Anxious-ambivalent children seek love but fear abandonment, leading to clingy behaviors.
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Avoidant Attachment Origins

  • Avoidant attachment forms when caregivers are invasive or emotionally unavailable, making love feel unsafe.
  • Avoidants avoid connection though deeply desire love, adapting by maintaining distance.
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