417: The 7 “negative” emotions that can BENEFIT your health | Bestselling author Mollie West Duffy
Jul 11, 2022
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Mollie West Duffy, a Wall Street Journal bestselling author, discusses how to use negative emotions to your advantage. Topics include the impact of deleting social media, balancing control and ambition, healthy anger management, signs of burnout, and strategies for dealing with despair.
Perfectionism is a fear of failure and can hinder productivity and enjoyment.
Suppressing anger is counterproductive, and anger can be compassionate and a sign of violated values.
Deep dives
The origin of the book and its focus on difficult emotions
Molly West Duffy, the author of the best-selling book 'Big Feelings: How to Be Okay when things are not okay,' explains that the idea for the book arose from personal and professional difficulties experienced by her and her co-author, Liz. Initially, they faced a lack of interest from publishers due to the perception that the topic was niche and depressing. However, when the pandemic hit, publishers recognized the relevance of their book to the experiences of the general public. The book aims to explore how regular individuals can navigate difficult emotions and draws on personal stories to let readers know they are not alone.
The seven big feelings covered in the book
The book delves into seven major emotions: uncertainty, comparison, anger, burnout, perfectionism, despair, and regret. The authors carefully selected these emotions based on their personal experiences and the unique insights they could offer. They also made an effort to use relatable language to connect with readers, such as choosing 'comparison' instead of 'envy' to ensure wider recognition and understanding of the discussed emotions.
Challenging common myths associated with certain emotions
The podcast episode highlights and debunks common myths associated with specific emotions. For example, it discusses how suppressing anger is counterproductive and that anger itself can be compassionate and a sign that something we care about has been violated. The episode also addresses the myth that perfectionism helps us excel when, in reality, it can hinder productivity and enjoyment. By exposing these misconceptions, the podcast encourages listeners to develop healthier relationships with their emotions.
The significance of seeking professional help and self-compassion
Throughout the episode, Molly emphasizes the importance of seeking professional help, especially in the case of despair, burnout, and other mental health issues. She shares her personal experience of gradually recovering from despair through therapy, medication, and small daily intentions. Moreover, the podcast emphasizes the need for self-compassion and acceptance when experiencing big feelings, like regret. It encourages individuals to learn from their emotions and focus on personal growth rather than dwelling on past mistakes.
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