In *Conflict Is Not Abuse*, Sarah Schulman examines how conflicts are often escalated into accusations of abuse, leading to injustice and exclusion. She argues that both traumatized individuals and those in positions of power may overstate harm to avoid accountability. Schulman advocates for community intervention and dialogue to resolve conflicts constructively.
Stop Self-Sabotage is a self-help book that helps readers understand and overcome self-sabotaging behaviors. It provides practical strategies and techniques to identify and change negative thought patterns and behaviors that hinder personal growth and success. The book emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, self-compassion, and positive self-talk. It offers a comprehensive approach to personal development, combining insights from psychology and practical exercises to help readers achieve their goals and live a more fulfilling life. The book is written in an accessible and engaging style, making it suitable for a wide range of readers. It is a valuable resource for anyone looking to improve their mental health and well-being.
A man chanced upon his wife's journals when he was cleaning the closets. He simply couldn't help himself. He read some of them, and learned about her erotic desires in a way he hadn't known before. It made him fall in love with her all over again. But now what? Should he tell her what he did?
Blindfold magic! A woman had a transcendent experience when her boyfriend blindfolded her and then...removed the blindfold. There he was! And he was suddenly more beautiful than ever.
On the Magnum, Dan welcomes writer, and actor Jeffery Self. What do two introverted, homosexual men have to talk about? Plenty, it turns out! Self's new memoir is deeply personal and fearless. He and Dan chat about the pros and cons of male sex work, why straight men are so jealous of gay men, and the deep dread the words "gay cruise" inspire in them both. Also, they take a call from a woman whose boyfriend is unaware of how stinky his balls are. So you don't want to miss that.
And, a woman's boyfriend is wracked with guilt when she gives him deep, gag-inducing blowjobs. She loves it, but he can't get over the misogynist associations.
Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064
This episode is brought to you by Dame Products, Sex toys designed by Women, For Women. For 20% off your first order, go to Dame.com and use offer code SAVAGE20
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/SAVAGE and get on your way to being your best self.
This episode is brought to you by Beam’s Dream Cocoa Powder- packed with all-natural ingredients to help improve sleep. For a limited time, Beam is offering my listeners up to 40% off. Go to shopbeam.com/SAVAGE and use code SAVAGE at checkout.
Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.
Savage Lovecast 
