Worklife with Adam Grant The psychology of forgiveness with Michael McCullough
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Jun 3, 2025 
Michael McCullough, a psychology professor at UC San Diego, discusses the fascinating intricacies of forgiveness. He delves into why humans evolved to forgive and the psychological impacts of holding grudges on health and relationships. The conversation highlights the struggle between seeking reconciliation and the need for personal accountability, emphasizing that forgiveness isn’t always the solution. McCullough also addresses how personal and cultural factors shape our ability to let go of past grievances, promoting a more nuanced understanding of emotional healing.
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Resentment Harms Health and Relationships
- Resentment harms well-being by causing lost sleep and lost energy.
- Holding grudges locks the mind on unproductive memories and destroys social support.
Forgive Based on Future Impact
- Forgive only if future benefits outweigh risks and the person is unlikely to harm you again.
- Avoid forgiving rashly to prevent restoring relationships with harmful or uncooperative individuals.
Mind Resists Cutting Valuable Ties
- The mind resists cutting off valuable relationships without ample evidence.
- Positive past experiences create hesitation to let go, causing internal conflict in forgiveness.
