Love Life With Matthew Hussey 307: Why Intimacy Feels SO Good With the WRONG People – Shan Boodram
Jul 30, 2025
Shan Boodram, a certified sex educator and relationship expert, dives deep into the dynamics of intimacy and relationships. She discusses why intimacy can sometimes lead to feelings of being ghosted or friend-zoned. Listeners learn how to navigate mismatched libidos and the importance of clearly communicating boundaries. Shan explores the tempting allure of toxic relationships and offers practical tips to reignite passion in long-term partnerships. Her insights aim to foster healthier romantic connections and enhance emotional security.
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Premeditated Relationship Decisions
- Many men decide the relationship potential before sex, often seeing sex as a brief experience rather than a commitment step.
- Women tend to have sex with equal or higher-standard partners, while men sometimes have sex with partners below their romantic standards.
Sex Requires Consent and Intent
- Only have sex with people you want to have sex with; sex is not a currency or exchange.
- Consent and aligned intent matter to avoid hurt from mismatched expectations.
Set Clear Sexual Boundaries
- Be proactive and clear about your sexual boundaries to protect your well-being and future self.
- Reflect on past experiences to decide what makes sex enjoyable and safe for you before consenting.
