Love Life With Matthew Hussey

In this conversation on the Know Thyself podcast with André Duqum, Matthew explores why we so often mistake familiar patterns for healthy ones—and how our “normal” can quietly keep us stuck. From gravitating toward emotionally unavailable people to operating from scarcity and self-protection, he breaks down how our past shapes what we tolerate, even when it hurts.This episode is a reminder that your past doesn’t get to dictate your future . . . and that real change begins when you stop staring at the wall you’ve mistaken for the world.---►► Try Matthew AI for 24/7 coaching and advice anytime at AskMH.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’ve carefully designed these steps to address the stages you’ll go through. And while we all know this process can take an enormous amount of time to put into action, I hope these steps will serve as a compass that will keep you pointed toward your strength (in spite of any distractions the narcissist may try to throw your way). I also hope this episode provides you with strength, acceptance, peace, and progress as you finally move on with your life and remember what it feels like to be free from the coercive control of the narcissist in your life.P.S. Even if you’re not in this situation, learning these principles in advance may save you a lot of time and grief down the road. And if you are going through this right now? Please know you’re not alone. I’m right here with you.---►► Looking for love, clarity, or a fresh perspective? Matthew’s weekly newsletter dives into insights that transform not just your relationships, but your entire life. Sign up for free at TheThreeRelationships.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

December can be a rollercoaster of emotions, often feeling heavier than expected. The holiday season magnifies mixed feelings of joy and grief, reminding us we’re not alone in our struggles. Matthew explores how to actively create magic in our lives instead of waiting for it to happen. Practical tips include self-compassion, small acts of kindness, and seeking connection during tough times. He encourages embracing the complex feelings that arise and finding belonging in shared experiences as the year comes to a close.

Early dating can turn us into people we don't recognize, filled with anxiety and overthinking. Matthew dives into the attachment styles that shape our dating reactions, revealing how anxious and avoidant patterns escalate tensions. He emphasizes the importance of leading instead of reacting to foster confidence and positive dynamics. By modeling secure behaviors, anxious individuals can find stability, while avoidant partners can embrace vulnerability as a strength. Both must take accountability to create a healing, loving environment.

Ever find that showing interest makes someone pull away? This discussion dives into why that happens, including self-loathing and a quest for new goals. Discover how overvaluing someone can mimic celebrity worship, leading to unhealthy attachments. The hosts emphasize striking a balance with your standards and maintaining boundaries, ensuring attraction doesn't overshadow your priorities. Excessive giving can feel off-putting and trigger withdrawal, so learn how to protect yourself emotionally as you navigate modern relationships.

Delve into the challenges of long-distance relationships as the hosts explore how distance can conceal real incompatibilities. They share personal reflections on parenthood and the new vulnerabilities it brings. Listen to insights on how online dating expands horizons yet complicates connections. The allure of romantic obstacles is discussed, along with practical tips for maintaining intimacy through voice notes and surprise visits. Plus, hear valuable advice on spotting red flags and prioritizing small gestures in love.

Matthew Hussey and Jay Shetty dive into the messy reality of heartbreak. They highlight that healing is personal and often non-linear, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion. The duo discusses how painful experiences can unknowingly empower us and reframe heartbreak into personal growth. They challenge the myth of 'right person, wrong time' and suggest that nostalgia is merely longing for an idealized version of an ex. Ultimately, they encourage acceptance of one's reality to pave the way for true healing.

Ever wonder why some men hesitate to commit? Discover the top three fears that hold them back, including decision paralysis and the fear of losing their independence. Learn how to lower relationship stakes by inviting gradual closeness and offering a trial commitment. Unpack the importance of maintaining individuality while nurturing trust through consistent behavior. It's a journey of understanding that could lead to a more profound connection!

Breakups can feel like earthquakes, leaving you questioning everything. The dialogue dives into the shocking aftermath of sudden endings and the pain of feeling blindsided. Listeners learn the importance of allowing grief to unfold without rushing into conclusions. Support systems are crucial—finding those who truly understand can make all the difference. Practical advice ranges from avoiding impulsive decisions to embracing the need for repeated truths in healing. The journey to recovery is grounded in moving slowly and intentionally.

Explore the intriguing four levels of love and attraction that can clarify your dating dilemmas. Discover why admiration alone isn't enough and how mutual attraction can create deceptive hopes. Learn the danger of equating immediate sparks with long-term compatibility. Unpack the significance of commitment and how shared values fortify relationships. Plus, gain insight on grieving connections that weren't meant to last and bridge the investment gap to find lasting love.