This book, written by former FBI hostage negotiator Chris Voss and co-author Tahl Raz, provides a masterclass in influencing others through negotiation. It distills the Voss method, revealing skills such as establishing rapport, creating trust with tactical empathy, and transforming conflict into collaboration. The book is filled with real-life examples from Voss's career, illustrating how these techniques can be applied in both professional and personal life to achieve goals and defuse potential crises.
In 'The Talent Code,' Daniel Coyle delves into the science behind talent development, highlighting three key elements: Deep Practice, Ignition, and Master Coaching. Coyle draws on cutting-edge neurology and research from various talent hotbeds around the world to explain how myelin, a neural insulator, is crucial for skill development. The book provides tools for parents, teachers, coaches, and individuals to maximize their potential and that of others, emphasizing that talent is not born but grown through targeted practice and the right motivation.
In 'The Culture Code', Daniel Coyle delves into the secrets of highly successful groups by examining some of the world’s most effective organizations, such as the U.S. Navy’s SEAL Team Six, Pixar, and the San Antonio Spurs. Coyle identifies three universal skills that generate cohesion and cooperation: building safety through belonging cues, sharing vulnerability to foster trust, and establishing purpose through clear narratives. The book combines leading-edge science, real-world examples, and practical strategies to help leaders and teams create an environment where innovation thrives, problems are solved, and expectations are exceeded.
Chris Voss excelled as a lead FBI international kidnapping negotiator. At the start of his career, he thought it was all about being tough and direct. But over time, he discovered the secret to cracking negotiations—tactical empathy. Today, he teaches business leaders how to read emotions, build trust, and avoid leaving money on the table. In this episode, Chris explains why empathy is a world-changing skill and shares tactics for getting what you want in business and life.
Chris Voss is a former FBI hostage negotiator with over two decades of experience in high-stakes crisis negotiations. He's the CEO of Black Swan Group and author of Never Split the Difference.
In this episode, Ilana and Chris will discuss:
- How Chris became an FBI hostage negotiator
- Why empathy is the secret weapon in business and life
- Turning a “no” into a powerful negotiation tool
- Why decision-making is emotional
- The surprising power of vulnerability in negotiations
- “It's not what you say, it's how you say it”
- Why a positive frame of mind makes you 31% smarter
- How to get your boss to pay you more
- And other topics…
Chris Voss is a former FBI lead international kidnapping negotiator and expert in high-stakes negotiations. He is also the CEO of Black Swan Group and author of Never Split the Difference. With over 24 years of experience at the FBI, Chris negotiated some of the most challenging hostage situations. He represented the U.S. at G8-sponsored international conferences on kidnapping. Chris has received prestigious awards, including the Attorney General’s Award for Excellence in Law Enforcement. He has also taught negotiation in top MBA programs at USC, Georgetown, and Harvard, as well as lecturing globally.
Connect with Chris:
Chris’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christophervoss/
Chris’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/fbinegotiator
Resources Mentioned:
Chris’s Book, Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It: https://www.amazon.com/Never-Split-Difference-Negotiating-Depended/dp/0062407805
Chris’s Documentary, Tactical Empathy: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt21383310/
Chris’s YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCk7jHqdlFFDBhC1QIFqi54w
Negotiation Mastery Newsletter: https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/negotiation-mastery-6998634991547006976/
Shawn Achor’s TED Talk, “The Happy Secret to Better Work”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fLJsdqxnZb0
The Talent Code: Greatness Isn't Born. It's Grown. Here's How. by Daniel Coyle: https://www.amazon.com/Talent-Code-Greatness-Born-Grown/dp/055380684X
In the Presence of My Enemies by Gracia Burnham and Dean Merrill: https://www.amazon.com/Presence-My-Enemies-Gracia-Burnham/dp/0842381392
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