PsycHacks Episode 574: How to find yourself (understanding what you really want)
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Nov 28, 2025 Discovering yourself is an ongoing journey, influenced by culture and emotions. The podcast delves into the complexities of identifying true desires, emphasizing that we are 'always becoming.' Change, often requiring the dismantling of old habits, is a necessary precursor to growth. Using a buffet metaphor, listeners are encouraged to explore life experiences actively rather than merely speculating. Emotional feedback is essential in recognizing what truly energizes us, helping to craft a fulfilling life.
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Desires Often Aren't Truly Yours
- People rarely have stable, self-originated desires because many wants are introjected from family, culture, and algorithms.
- Orion Taraban argues this explains why achieving those desires often leaves people disappointed and empty.
You Are Always Becoming
- Identity is an ongoing process and we are always becoming someone new over time.
- Orion emphasizes that change is often unconscious, so we won't automatically know who we're becoming.
Destruction Precedes Creation
- Change often requires destruction of old habits, personas, and relationships to make space for new construction.
- Orion argues destruction is a necessary neutral process rather than inherently negative.
