Fearne Cotton ON: Setting Healthy Boundaries with Love, Family, and in the Workplace
Jun 14, 2021
auto_awesome
Fearne Cotton joins Jay Shetty to discuss the weight of setting boundaries for yourself and learning to respect others'. They talk about embracing paradoxes in life, setting healthy boundaries in various aspects, and expressing emotions through creative outlets. They also discuss the concept of perfection, pain, and the importance of gratitude.
Setting boundaries is essential for creating healthy relationships and maintaining sanity.
Embracing imperfections and letting creativity be messy and authentic.
Finding healthy outlets for expression and accepting diverse perspectives lead to understanding and harmony.
Deep dives
Channeling Negative Emotions into Creativity
The key to being more creative is to not disregard negative emotions but to channel them into creation. By using negative feelings and experiences as inspiration, one can transform them into something beautiful and shareable. This applies to various forms of creativity, from art and music to gardening or crafting. Embracing curiosity and exploring these emotions can lead to new ideas and insights, creating a sense of growth and expression.
Using Playfulness for Productivity
Finding a creative outlet that brings joy and playfulness can enhance productivity. Engaging in activities that spark a childlike sense of fun and competition, such as playing tennis, can have a positive impact on overall well-being and motivation. It is about finding ways to incorporate play into one's daily routine, which can bring a sense of happiness and readiness to tackle the day ahead, boosting overall creativity and productivity.
Embracing Imperfections in Creativity
Pushing back against the pressure to create something perfect, it is important to embrace imperfections and let creativity be messy and authentic. The modern concept of perfection, often influenced by social media, can hinder creative expression. Instead, allow creativity to flow naturally, welcoming both the pain and joy that comes with it. By embracing imperfections, one can create something unique and deeply personal, breaking free from the constraints of seeking external validation or conformity.
The Power of Setting Boundaries
Setting boundaries is essential for creating healthy relationships and maintaining sanity. It is important to be honest about what you can offer and communicate your limitations to others. By setting boundaries, you can prevent resentment and create healthier relationships. It is crucial to accept other people's boundaries and understand that everyone thinks differently. Success is not based on material possessions or external indicators, but rather on personal fulfillment and the feeling of doing what feels right.
Expressing Emotions and Taking Action
When experiencing strong emotions, finding healthy outlets for expression is crucial. Different emotions may require different approaches, such as physical activity for anger, writing or talking about depression, and engaging in fidgety activities for panic. It is important to take responsibility for our actions and avoid blaming others. Instead of seeking perfection, focus on meaningful and authentic self-expression. Accepting that we all think differently and embracing diverse perspectives can lead to more understanding and harmony in the world.
Fearne Cotton joins Jay Shetty to discuss the weight and importance of setting boundaries for yourself so you can learn to respect other people’s boundaries, why you need to change when your inner voice is telling you, and channeling negative energy into positive outcomes and changes in you and around you.
Fearne is the author of the book, Speak Your Truth, and one of the best known and most popular broadcasters in the UK and is most recently known as the Founder of the wellbeing brand, Happy Place. Her podcast, Happy Place, has featured an array of guests such as Ellie Golding, Jada Pinkett Smith, and Russell Brand amongst others.
What We Discuss with Fearne:
00:00 Intro
02:11 The inspiration behind the running selfie
04:41 Try and push yourself with vibrant colors
07:48 Life is everything, it’s loud and it’s quiet
10:54 Don’t ignore that consistent feeling of wanting to change yourself
14:11 Being yourself relieves the pressure to be brilliant at all time
17:03 When we’re curious, we’re always willing to learn
20:13 This social conditioning that we have to act a certain way
24:01 Speaking your truth is learning to say NO
27:52 Setting boundaries now will create healthy relationships
30:52 We need to be responsible for what we are putting out there
34:01 “I’m alright so I can be of service.” - Fearne Cotton
36:51 The pros and cons of having stop abruptly when you mind is at work
39:56 Think about how you can channel negativity into something positive
44:54 Be messy and create something that is authentically you
48:28 We have something to go with how we feel
52:44 Fearne on Fill in the Blanks
53:54 Fearne on Final Five
54:52 How good are we at accepting other people’s boundaries?