Nicole LePera, a holistic psychologist and author of the NYT bestseller "How to Do the Work," shares her insights on bridging mind, body, and spirit for genuine healing. She recounts her personal journey from feeling empty at the height of her career to discovering deep transformation in her life. Codependency, shaped by childhood experiences, is a central theme, encouraging listeners to pursue inner work over external validation. LePera highlights the limitations of traditional therapy and advocates for holistic practices that foster emotional awareness and healing.
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Codependency Development
Codependency often develops in dysfunctional family environments with poor boundaries or narcissism.
It manifests as hyper-vigilance and anticipating others' needs to avoid threats, originating from childhood insecurity.
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Mark's Codependency
Mark Devine shares how his codependency led to narcissists exploiting his perceived inadequacy in business.
They offered validation and support, ultimately taking advantage of him repeatedly.
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Traditional Success and Emptiness
Nicole LePera achieved traditional success but felt empty, leading her to question the meaning of fulfillment.
Despite external achievements, she experienced increasing emptiness and sought validation in relationships.
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In 'How to Do the Work,' Dr. Nicole LePera offers a manifesto for self-healing and an essential guide to creating a more vibrant, authentic, and joyful life. Drawing on the latest research from various scientific fields and healing modalities, Dr. LePera helps readers understand how adverse childhood experiences and trauma can result in whole-body dysfunction, leading to patterns of codependency, emotional immaturity, and trauma bonds. The book provides tools and support to help readers break free from destructive behaviors and reclaim their lives, promoting a paradigm shift in approaching mental wellness and self-care.
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Traditional psychology is not without its limits, and on this week’s episode of The Unbeatable Mind, holistic psychologist Dr. Nicole LePera is here to discuss those limits and the importance of integrating mind, body, and spirit for true healing.
Nicole opens up about her own struggles with achievements and the emptiness that followed—-even at the peak of her professional success. She delves into the evolution of therapy, and how moving beyond traditional models can bring about more transformative and resilient ways of living. Tackling issues of codependency, often shaped by one's childhood environment(s), Nicole dissects how these patterns impact one’s adult life and relationships. Her perceptive way of dissecting past trauma can be transformative for anyone who finds themselves on the path towards healing.
Dr. Nicole found herself frustrated with her work as a therapist. She knew that she wanted better for herself and her clients. At the same time, she began to face some hard truths about her own family dynamics, core beliefs, and dysfunctional patterns that led to an emotional breakdown. This led to her own healing journey, and after 2 years of deep transformation she began teaching this work on social media, creating a community of #selfhealers. Dr. Nicole created the SelfHealers Circle to allow people to go on their own journey and create who they want to become. Dr. Nicole lives in Los Angeles, California and loves anywhere that involves the stillness (and quiet) of nature.
Key Takeaways:
Holistic Approaches to Healing: Learn about the necessity of multidimensional approaches to healing and how essential it is to integrate emotional, physical and spiritual aspects.
External Validation vs. Internal Fulfillment: Discover how even those who appear to be performing at their peak are often the ones seeking external validation—no achievement can take the place of genuine personal connection.
The Limitations of Traditional Psychology: Recognize the limitations in modern day methods of therapy—they lack the integration of body and mind.
Origins of Codependency: Learn how childhood environments and dysfunctional family dynamics play a role in forming codependent tendencies and what safety mechanisms, if applied early, can help prevent them.
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