EP278: A coaching session on restlessness, aimlessness, and simply being
Nov 27, 2023
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In this episode, Betty returns for a coaching session to explore her aimlessness and restlessness without constant movement. The conversation reveals that Betty is trying to avoid feeling a certain emotion. The host discusses the importance of embracing the present moment and letting go of old identities. They also tackle body image, doubts about medical advice, and the discomfort of breaking old patterns. The podcast emphasizes the need to be present with feelings of restlessness and aimlessness without constantly seeking a solution or purpose.
Questioning deeply ingrained beliefs and societal expectations can lead to greater self-awareness and liberation from suffering.
Embracing discomfort and restlessness without seeking constant productivity can uncover the temporary nature of these sensations and the natural unfolding of life.
Exploring our true identity beyond external activities and roles opens the door for personal growth and self-discovery.
Deep dives
The Challenge of Following Medical Advice and Feeling Restless
Betty is facing challenges in following the medical advice she received to nourish her body and avoid exercise in order to regain her lost period. She questions whether this is the right path for her and struggles with discomfort and restlessness. She acknowledges the hope of learning better eating cues and trusting her body's signals, but also feels confused and scared about her changing body. Betty seeks to understand what is true and how much longer she needs to wait for her body to heal. She also contemplates her identity and feeling aimless as she no longer has the same purpose and activities in her life.
The Mind's Urge for Purpose and Worthiness
Betty's mind refuses to accept and be content with the feeling of aimlessness. It constantly seeks a new purpose or activity to fill the void she feels inside. Her mind tells her that she needs to be doing something productive in order to feel worthy and valued. Betty questions the truth behind these beliefs and societal expectations, recognizing how these thoughts create suffering and keep her trapped. Dr. Amy Johnson encourages Betty to explore and challenge these deeply ingrained beliefs that are limiting her sense of self and worth.
Embracing the Unknown and Just Being
Dr. Amy Johnson suggests that Betty embrace the feeling of aimlessness and restlessness rather than constantly striving for a purpose or activity to escape it. She urges Betty to simply sit with the discomfort, without trying to solve or fix it. By fully experiencing the present moment, Betty can discover that the restlessness and aimlessness are just temporary sensations and that life unfolds naturally. Dr. Johnson highlights the importance of recognizing that our minds will always come up with new desires or objectives, but that the true invitation lies in being present and feeling what arises without judgment or resistance.
Exploring the Shift in Identity and Beliefs
The podcast episode delves into the shift in identity and beliefs that occurs when certain activities or identities are no longer available. It emphasizes the opportunity to explore who we truly are when we're not defined by external activities or roles. The speaker encourages questioning the validity of beliefs and recognizing that many of the notions about what is considered normal or healthy are subjective and not universally true.
Embracing the Unknown and Finding Freedom
The podcast highlights the discomfort and fear that arise when faced with uncertainty and aimlessness. It suggests embracing the unknown as an opportunity for personal growth and self-discovery. The speaker encourages being present to the current moment, without constantly seeking external validation or trying to fit into societal expectations. It emphasizes the importance of challenging limiting beliefs and recognizing that worthiness is not dependent on productivity or adherence to routines.
In this episode, Betty returns to Changeable for another coaching session. Betty was coached in episode 266 around her urges to over-exercise and her beliefs that she must constantly be moving in order to be healthy. Due to health issues related to under-nourishing and over-exercising for so long, Betty is not exercising at all right