Martha Higareda Howes, a renowned Mexican actress and writer known for her work in Netflix's 'Altered Carbon' and now married to Lewis Howes, shares her profound insights on relationship preparation. They discuss their year-long journey leading up to marriage, emphasizing intentionality, workshops, and therapy. Martha candidly reveals her struggles with controlling relationship patterns, while Lewis opens up about prioritizing acceptance over perfection. Their commitment to protecting their bond in the face of family pressures during their wedding day showcases the essence of true love.
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Premarital Workshops Build Foundations
Take a premarital workshop to build a strong marriage foundation.
Engaging with experienced couples and discussing key subjects is powerful preparation.
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Control Stems From Childhood Safety
Controlling behavior in relationships often comes from childhood safety mechanisms.
It is a protective measure born from early insecurity and lack of trust.
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Choose Acceptance Over Control
Accept your partner fully instead of controlling or trying to change them.
Embrace acceptance to create safety and connection in your relationship.
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Most couples rush into marriage without building the foundation that actually matters, but Martha Higareda Howes, accomplished actress and my wife, shows us what intentional relationship preparation looks like. We dive deep into our year-long marriage preparation journey, revealing the workshops, therapy sessions, and difficult conversations that created unshakeable unity before we even said "I do." Martha vulnerably shares how she learned to break free from controlling patterns rooted in childhood safety mechanisms, while I open up about requiring acceptance over perfection from a partner. The most powerful moment comes when Martha demonstrates true partnership by choosing our marriage agreements over family pressure during our wedding day crisis, proving that real love means protecting the relationship you're building together. Anyone dating seriously, engaged, or married will walk away with a blueprint for creating the kind of relationship that thrives under pressure rather than crumbles.
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