If you’re tired of feeling stuck, this one’s for you. Dr. Rick and Forrest explore how we can overcome learned helplessness and change our lives by developing self-efficacy: the ability to influence our environments and control our motivation and behavior. Key topics include why we get stuck, the science of learned helplessness, focusing on effort over talent, creating a growth mindset, and balancing acceptance and agency. You’ll learn how to improve self-efficacy, embrace who you are, and become truly confident in your ability to grow.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:50: Why are we prone to feeling stuck?
4:45: Fear of failure and negativity bias
8:30: Learned helplessness and the dog study
18:05: Difficulties identifying patterns we’re close to
20:00: The biological function of shame
22:55 The connection between our emotions, our body, and our sense of self-efficacy
24:10: Chronic illness and pain, and recognizing what is and is not in your control
26:10: What is a growth mindset?
28:40: Nature and nurture, talent and effort, and our metrics of self-worth
35:00: Rick’s practical tips for improving self-efficacy (complete with soundtrack)
40:20: Creating a coherent self-narrative
42:35: An example from Forrest of claiming agency
46:20: Advice for someone in their late 20s when feeling stuck
51:40: Building on and reinforcing our successes
56:35: Determination
59:35: Recap
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