In a thought-provoking discussion, Brené Brown, a research professor and vulnerability expert, joins Esther Perel to explore the balance between technology and authentic human connection. They address the paradox of feeling isolated in a hyper-connected world and emphasize the necessity of genuine interactions amid digital distractions. The conversation dives into the emotional effects of social media, the significance of vulnerability in relationships, and how 'bids for connection' can enhance intimacy. Together, they challenge listeners to rethink how technology shapes love and community.
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Loneliness and Connection
Modern loneliness is driven by a yearning for connection in a disconnected world.
People seek community to transcend the burdens of the self and find freedom from doubt.
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Artificial Intimacy
Artificial intimacy provides pseudo-connections that lack real presence and vulnerability.
This leads to a sense of loneliness even when surrounded by others.
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Counterfeit Connection
Brene Brown experienced increased energy for real-life connections after a social media break.
She realized online interactions require less vulnerability while real ones demand more.
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In this book, Esther Perel explores the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, arguing that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor can be antithetical to erotic desire. Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel uses case studies and lively discussions to demonstrate how more exciting, playful, and poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships. She emphasizes the importance of maintaining independence, mystery, and the space between self and other to sustain desire.
The state of affairs
Rethinking Infidelity
Esther Perel
In this book, Esther Perel delves into the complex and often misunderstood topic of infidelity. She weaves real-life case stories with psychological and cultural analysis to understand why people cheat, even in happy marriages. Perel argues that affairs can provide a unique window into modern relationships, revealing our expectations, desires, and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. The book offers practical advice on how couples can heal from infidelity and potentially grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences.
This week we're airing a very special episode of Brené Brown's Unlocking Us where Esther and Brené discuss how we manage the paradox of exploring the world of social media and emerging technologies while staying tethered to our humanness. How do we create IRL relationships where we see and value others and feel seen and valued in the context of constant scrolling and using digital technology as armor?
For the first time on the U.S. stage, Esther invites you to an evening unlike any other. Join her as she shines a light on the cultural shifts transforming relationships and helps us rethink how we connect, how we desire – and even how we love. To find a city near you, go to https://www.estherperel.com/tour2024
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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel 
