The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck Podcast

How to Stop Letting Fear Control Your Life (ft. Dr. Julie Smith)

Mar 5, 2025

Join Dr. Julie Smith, a clinical psychologist and viral mental health educator, as she tackles that pesky inner critic we all know too well. She discusses strategies to quiet self-doubt and reframe negative thoughts into self-respect. Dr. Smith reveals the impacts of social media on our self-worth and emphasizes the importance of self-compassion. She also shares her journey towards embracing social media while navigating the challenges of being an introvert. It's a refreshing conversation on empowerment and personal growth that you won't want to miss!

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Quick takeaways

Dr. Julie Smith emphasizes the power of reframing negative self-talk into positive affirmations to counteract the inner critic's influence.

Social media, despite its pitfalls, can be a platform for positive mental health dialogues when used to share constructive content.

Authentic emotional resilience involves understanding emotions as experiences rather than facts, empowering individuals to navigate challenges with adaptability.

Deep dives

Understanding the Negative Inner Voice

Many individuals struggle with a negative inner voice that undermines their self-worth and creates feelings of inadequacy. This inner critic often convinces people that they are not good enough or that they must constantly prove their value to others. Dr. Julie Smith emphasizes the importance of recognizing this voice and reframing it into more positive affirmations and self-talk. By doing so, individuals can begin to diminish the impact of negative thoughts and cultivate a healthier self-perception.

Intro

2min

Navigating Social Media and Self-Compassion

9min

Navigating Boundaries in Content Creation

3min

Navigating Social Comparison and Personal Growth

18min

Navigating Loneliness and Therapy

8min

Navigating Therapy and Nihilism

12min

Navigating Adult Relationships with Parents

10min

You know that voice in your head that loves to tell you that you suck? Yeah, that one. The one that compares you to everyone on Instagram, tells you you’re a failure for eating cereal at 11 p.m., and insists you’ll never get your life together. Well, today, we’re calling in a professional to deal with that assh*le. Dr. Julie Smith is a clinical psychologist and viral mental health educator who’s built a massive following by actually making psychology make sense. In this episode, she breaks down how to quiet that inner critic, stop getting crushed by comparison, and reframe your self-loathing into something a little more useful—like self-respect.

We also dig into what it’s like to become internet famous when you’re an introvert, why emotions are not facts (even though they feel like they are), and how to stop letting social media, your parents, and your own bullsh*t beliefs define your worth. Whether you’re stuck in a shame spiral, wondering why life feels pointless, or just trying to figure out how to not hate yourself so much, this episode is for you.

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