Understanding Defiance in Children

Defiance and oppositional behavior in children and adolescents often stem from a lack of emotional regulation and awareness. Many defiant children, particularly those diagnosed with ADHD, exhibit cognitive distortions, mistakenly believing that everything is unfair or that no one cares about them. This perception can lead to power struggles with parents, who may not fully understand the underlying struggles their children face. Dr. Bernstein emphasizes the importance of distinguishing between a child's willful defiance and their emotional challenges, noting that many kids with ADHD do not choose to act out but are instead navigating complex internal battles.