

539- From Battles to Bonding: A Parent’s Guide to Trading Defiance for Cooperation
11 snips Jan 23, 2025
Jeffrey Bernstein, Ph.D., a seasoned psychologist and author, shares invaluable insights into managing defiance in children, particularly those with ADHD. He discusses the underlying causes of oppositional defiance and offers practical tools for caregivers to restore peace. Emphasizing empathy, emotional regulation, and non-controlling communication, Bernstein highlights strategies for transforming conflict into cooperation. His advice empowers parents to foster emotional awareness and resilience while navigating the complexities of raising defiant children.
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Daughter's Criticism
- Dr. Bernstein's daughter criticized him for not managing his own kids despite helping other families.
- This prompted him to reflect and change his reactive parenting style.
The Car Apology
- Dr. Bernstein's son shoved his sister, leading to a confrontation in the car.
- Dr. Bernstein used a calm, firm, and non-controlling approach, and his son eventually apologized.
Calm Communication
- Use calm, firm, and non-controlling statements to bypass emotional reactivity in defiant children.
- This approach avoids power struggles and encourages open communication.