The Art of Charm

Nice Guys Finish First—If They Do This | Dr. Ryan Fehr

Jun 30, 2025
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Ryan Fehr
Dr. Ryan Fehr, a leadership professor at the University of Washington, specializes in emotional intelligence and organizational psychology. In this conversation, he shares invaluable tools for managing high-stakes emotions, emphasizing how to respond rather than react. Ryan discusses techniques like naming emotions for better control and a mental trick used by elite performers to navigate chaos. He highlights the importance of emotional range over mere positivity and provides practical strategies for fostering emotional safety in leadership and personal interactions.
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Loneliness Is About Relationship Quality

  • Loneliness stems from a gap between desired and actual relationship quality, not physical solitude.
  • Social events alone don't cure loneliness because satisfaction with connection is key.
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Quality Beats Quantity in Relationships

  • Awareness that more social activity is good isn't enough; quality of relationships matters most.
  • The 'extrovert ideal' is a myth; introverts thrive without acting extroverted.
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Highlight Reels Foster Detachment

  • Online communication often reduces friendships to highlight reels, creating emotional detachment.
  • This shallow exchange lacks true connection and leaves people feeling distant and drained.
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