Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson Limerence, Love, and Life Transitions: January Mailbag
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Jan 13, 2025 Dive into the intricacies of limerence, where obsession meets romantic attraction. Discover practical strategies for navigating one-sided infatuations and rebuilding trust after trauma. The discussion also addresses managing career transitions, tackling social anxiety, and the delicate art of maintaining boundaries without succumbing to anger. Explore how to embrace happiness in relationships while maintaining emotional safety and self-compassion. It's a thought-provoking journey through love, vulnerability, and emotional complexity.
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Overcoming Limerence
- Explore underlying reasons for fixating on others romantically.
- Address personal insecurities and anxieties rather than focusing on the other person.
Limerence as a Self-Object
- Limerence, an obsessive romantic attraction, can be viewed as using a "love object" to complete oneself.
- This behavior is common and stems from biological and psychological factors.
Limerence vs. Love
- Recognize that limerence is not genuine love, but a short-term pleasure with long-term pain.
- Pursue realistic relationships to fulfill genuine needs.