Ellen Langer, a Harvard psychology professor and author of The Mindful Body, dives into the art of decision-making. She explores the staggering number of choices we face daily and offers insights on reducing decision-related stress. The discussion unveils how personal perceptions influence workplace stress and highlights the transformative journey of redefining careers later in life. Additionally, the interplay between emotions and choices is examined, with a focus on using mindfulness to navigate regret and enhance personal growth.
Ellen Langer emphasizes that viewing mistakes as enriching experiences can transform decision-making into a more relaxed and fulfilling process.
Instead of fixating on perfect choices, individuals should acknowledge missed opportunities as a source of deeper regret, shaping a healthier decision-making perspective.
Deep dives
Embracing Decision-Making Mistakes
Making decisions often involves navigating perceived mistakes, which can lead to surprisingly positive outcomes. Ellen Langer emphasizes that rather than viewing errors as failures, individuals should recognize that what is labeled a mistake can add depth and interest to choices, much like in the creative process of art. She argues that when faced with equally appealing options, one should simply choose randomly instead of overanalyzing, as the stress comes primarily from the belief that one must make the perfect decision. This perspective not only alleviates pressure but also fosters a more relaxed approach to decision-making.
The Illusion of Cost-Benefit Analysis
Attempting to quantify decisions through pros and cons lists can often lead to confusion and indecision, as Ellen Langer points out. She highlights how every choice inherently involves both advantages and disadvantages that can seem to cancel each other out, making objective analysis challenging. Instead of seeking the right decision through analytical methods, she encourages individuals to focus on making the decision work for them after it has been made. This shift in mindset reduces the anxiety that often accompanies decision-making and allows for a more satisfying engagement with the outcomes.
Overcoming Decision Regret
Decision regret is a common experience that often leads individuals to second-guess their choices, but Ellen Langer suggests reframing this feeling. Many people find themselves regretting what they did not pursue rather than their actual decisions, indicating that missed opportunities often weigh heavier over time. Furthermore, the dynamics of regret show that minor regrets fade, while significant wasted opportunities linger in memory, reminding us of chances not taken. By recognizing that each decision shapes who we are, individuals can cultivate a healthier relationship with their choices and embrace uncertainty.
It’s estimated we make up to 35,000 decisions every day so how can you make better decisions at work?
Before you start drawing up pros and cons lists, listen to this episode to hear how you can make decisions with less stress and a lot more satisfaction - from small everyday ones, to big ones like changing career.
Guests:
Dr Ellen Langer - Professor of Psychology, Harvard University. Author, The Mindful Body.
Dr Janneke Blijlevens - Senior Lecturer in Experimental Methods, RMIT University
Dr Adrian Camilleri - Associate Professor of Marketing, University of Technology Sydney Business School
Brigitte Duclos - Counsellor
This story was first broadcast on 11 February 2024
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