The Place We Find Ourselves

119 How To Engage Someone's Story Part 3

Jul 18, 2022

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The Wounded Heart by Dan Allender

01:10

Triangulation Is the Core Drama of Your Childhood

00:43

Triangulation Is the Core Drama of Your Childhood

03:03

Seven Tactics to Use When You Are Engaging Someone's Story

01:41

Introduction

3min

Exploring the Trauma Before the Trauma

3min

The Storyteller's Family of Origin, Developmental Trauma, and Triangulation

3min

Triangulation - What Is Triangulation?

3min

Triangulation Is the Core Drama of Your Childhood

3min

The Storyteller Needs You to Name the Triangulation With Mom

3min

Effective Storytelling - Tactic Number Two of Effective Story Engagement

4min

Tactic Three: Ask Provocative Questions

2min

Tactic Four: Invite the Storyteller to Be Embedded in Their Body

3min

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The Storyteller's Powerlessness

3min

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The 16 Year Old Feels a Pit in Her Stomach

3min

12.

Seven Tactics to Use When You Are Engaging Someone's Story

2min

In Part 3 of this series on how to engage someone’s story, we look at five specific tactics you can use. Tactic 1: Explore the trauma before the trauma. Tactic 2: Explore triangulation. Tactic 3: Ask (good) provocative questions. Tactic 4: Invite the storyteller to be embodied as they are engaging with you. Tactic 5: Name and address betrayal, powerlessness, and ambivalence in the story.

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