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451: Boundaries When Breaking Out of Enmeshed Family Dynamics - With Dr. Sharon Martin

Oct 7, 2024
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Sharon Martin
In this engaging discussion, Dr. Sharon Martin, LCSW, a noted author and expert in family dynamics, dives into the complex world of enmeshed family relationships. She highlights the importance of recognizing unhealthy patterns and setting boundaries for personal growth. Dr. Martin shares insights from her books, including practical tools in her 'Better Boundaries Workbook.' The conversation emphasizes individual empowerment, self-advocacy, and the need for open communication in fostering healthier family interactions.
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INSIGHT

Boundaries Are Learnable Skills

  • Sharon Martin says setting boundaries is a learned skill that most people never formally learn.
  • She compares it to learning to drive or cook, requiring practice and adjustment.
INSIGHT

Weak Versus Rigid Family Patterns

  • Sharon Martin describes families with weak boundaries where children lack privacy and individuation.
  • She contrasts that with rigid families where rules never adapt as children grow.
ADVICE

Start Boundaries With Small Choices

  • Teach children age-appropriate limits and let them assert choices, like whether to hug someone.
  • Respecting small bodily choices builds their sense of voice and consent.
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