27. "My ADHD makes me feel so broken and I can't stop negative thinking!" 😭

Oct 10, 2024

In the finale of the season, the hosts share relatable chaos from kids' parties while tackling the tough topic of negative self-talk in ADHD. They explore how such thoughts form during childhood and the impact of supportive partners. Personal stories reveal strategies for separating oneself from these thoughts. The neurobiology behind negative thinking is unpacked, and playful reflections on language add humor to the conversation. The episode wraps up with exciting news about new content to help with ADHD management.

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Intro

00:00 • 2min

Navigating Parenting Chaos with ADHD

02:23 • 2min

An Evening of Reflection and Life Hacks

03:58 • 4min

Navigating ADHD and Self-Compassion

08:01 • 22min

Embracing Positivity and New Subscription Announcement

29:33 • 2min

Wordplay and Whimsy

31:47 • 14min

Words We Love to Hate

45:44 • 6min

Hi ADHD besties! This is our LAST episode of SEASON 1! After this ep, we are taking a teeny tiny break and will be back with our usual episode the Thursday after next... PLUS we have some very exciting news! 👀

This week we're overstimulated by kids parties and raising boys (boy parents will agree that it's a never ending bucks party!) 🙃

Dilemma:
A gorgeous neurotypical listener asks how he can support his ADHD girlfriend, especially with her negative self talk and internalised ableism. 👩‍❤️‍👨

We discuss:
- How cycles of negative self talk are conditioned in childhood and can become increasingly savage and disollusioning.
- How a partner/friend can help their negative partner by reflecting their thoughts back to them, and helping them get some perspective.
- Grace shares the biggest shifts in her journey with negative self talk and why taking ownership helped hugely.
- Creating space between our thoughts and ourselves and recognising unconscious thought patterns.
- The neurobiology of the brain and why we get stuck in negative thought patterns.
- We look at the concept of 'clickbait thoughts' and question whether thoughts are helpful, instead of whether they're true.

RECS:

- Grace has another questionable rec that Tara is convinced that she came up with 5 minutes prior to recording

- Tara recommends the book 'The Happiness Trap' by Russ Harris

Ireggy Seggy:

This week we're playing 'Good words, Bad words': is it an auditory stim or does it make you feel like peeling your ears off? 🫣

Don't RSD loves!
Tara & Grace xx

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