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Apr 3, 2025 • 1h 22min

45. 🥊 Fighting for Understanding: Navigating ADHD in Family Relationships

Hiiiii ADHD bestiesssss we’re back with another symposium on why-ADHD-can-suck-but-it’s-also-going-to-be-okay-we-promise!This time we’re diving into the complexity of family relationships with ADHD and covering the best dilemmas from the last 40+ episodes on dynamics with parents, parents-in-law, partners etc *Dun dun duuun!*Dilemma 1 - Holly sends a voice message dilemma on sharing her diagnosis from family and friends and facing stigma and gaslighting. We discuss: ADHD's frequency and intensityThe invisible nature of ADHDCommon misconceptions and how to address themThe energy drain of ADHD advocacy—when and how to engageDilemma 2 - An anon listener asks about an offhand comment from a mother-in-law that made this listener feel lazyWe discuss: Stopping ADHD self-criticism spiralsHandling criticism & passive aggressionWhy parent comments trigger ADHDersRe-parenting your inner child with ADHDThe invisible emotional load in ADHD familiesDilemma 3 - Sarah asks: “My parents don’t seem to acknowledge or understand my ADHD. I’m 27 and still living at home, and my mum is very critical of me and my anxiety.” We discuss: ADHD & setting boundaries with parentsUn-enmeshing from family dynamicsBuilding trust through neutral & fun connectionsDilemma 4 - A gorgeous neurotypical listener asks about how to support his ADHD girlfriend, especially with confidence, negative self talk and finding accommodations for her. We discuss: Overcoming ADHD self-criticismBreaking unconscious negative thought patternsSeparating thoughts from identity for self-awarenessDilemma 5 - “How do I get my Mum to understand I’m not lazy and it’s not that I don’t care - I’m trying my best” We discuss: Neurodivergent energy levels & the need for restADHD hyperfocus & losing track of timeSensory overwhelm & inconsistent behavior in ADHDParental guilt about late ADHD recognitionNavigating conversations with undiagnosed ADHD parentsWe love you 4evs and we will be back with a VERY SPECIAL episode next week with the one and only Emma from @emmasmindovermatter!!!RSDing is out of the question, as always!GB and Txxxxxxxxxx----------------------------🦋 WANT MORE ADHD BESTIES? JOIN OUR PATREON COMMUNITY for subscriber-only episodes every week, bestie chat groups, live Q&As, downloadables and so much more!Find us on socials (so it's not just our husbands commenting 👨‍🦲👨‍🦱)🌈 IG @adhdbestiespodcast🌈 TikTok @adhdbestiespodcast❗️ SUBMIT your Divergent Dilemma for us to read on the podcast: https://adhdbesties.com/dilemmas/ (you can stay anon if you like!)Music by VocalistaKeywords: ADHD women’s podcast, ADHD for women, ADHD in women, ADHD support for women, ADHD empowerment, ADHD tips for women, ADHD self-care, ADHD strategies for women, neurodivergent women’s experiences, ADHD mental health for women, ADHD personal stories, ADHD late diagnosis, ADHD focus tips, ADHD executive functioning, ADHD and RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), ADHD coping strategies, ADHD and motherhood, ADHD treatment for women, women’s ADHD podcast, ADHD medication for women, ADHD wellness for women, ADHD community for women, women with ADHD support, ADHD resources for women, ADHD and anxiety in women, ADHD podcast for neurodivergent women.
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Mar 27, 2025 • 1h 7min

44. ADHD & Friendships: “Why am I so bad at keeping friends?!”

Hi besties! On the pod today:Our Second Official ADHD Besties Symposium is here and this time we're looking at ADHD and Friendships. Why? Because when you have ADHD they can be hard bby. ---🦋 JOIN OUR PATREON COMMUNITY for extra subscriber-only episodes every week and the BEST community ever!!---We have curated THE BEST 🤌 dilemmas on friendships from our very handsome (flicks hair into quiff) back catalogue and put them together for you to share with the people around you so that they understand your Gorgeous Little Neurodivergent Brains (GLNB’s) a bit better OR to remind you to be kind to those GLNBs when it comes to managing friendships.This week we answer a series of dilemmas specific to ADHD and friendships including; 💌 "How can I manage relationships/friendships when my ADHD makes me “outta sight, outta mind”?!💌 "I feel like my roommate is embarrassed by me because of my ADHD - how do I bring this up without creating a full blown drama?"💌 "ADHD drains my social battery but my friends think I'm avoiding them" -with the gorgeous Olivia from @neurodiversing💌 "AuDHD, debilitating RSD and being left out of friendship groups"We discuss: ADHD texting paralysis/communication overwhelm, why we can’t reply, and how to make it easierHow hyperfocus makes time melt away (and why every message starts with ‘omg I’m so sorry’)Why being upfront about your ADHD can save friendshipsWhy being pitied is so painful for ADHDersThe double standard of being ‘child-like’ with ADHD (why does no one mention the positives?!)How RSD can sabotage friendshipsWhy ADHDers and AuDHDers rest differently—and how to redefine fun for yourselfThe joy of missing out—why it’s sometimes not just okay but IMPORTANTHow to fix relationships after an RSD spiralWhat to do if you’ve canceled too many times due to burnoutHow to stop self-sabotaging friendships & work relationshipsWe will be back in your GLND ears NEXT THURSDAYAnd until then: *said in a melodic chorus* Don’t RSD baby girllll 💖Tata and Grace xxxxx----------------------------🦋 WANT MORE ADHD BESTIES? JOIN OUR PATREON COMMUNITY for subscriber-only episodes every week, bestie chat groups, live Q&As, downloadables and so much more!Find us on socials (so it's not just our husbands commenting 👨‍🦲👨‍🦱)🌈 IG @adhdbestiespodcast🌈 TikTok @adhdbestiespodcast❗️ SUBMIT your Divergent Dilemma for us to read on the podcast: https://adhdbesties.com/dilemmas/ (you can stay anon if you like!)Music by VocalistaKeywords: ADHD women’s podcast, ADHD for women, ADHD in women, ADHD support for women, ADHD empowerment, ADHD tips for women, ADHD self-care, ADHD strategies for women, neurodivergent women’s experiences, ADHD mental health for women, ADHD personal stories, ADHD late diagnosis, ADHD focus tips, ADHD executive functioning, ADHD and RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), ADHD coping strategies, ADHD and motherhood, ADHD treatment for women, women’s ADHD podcast, ADHD medication for women, ADHD wellness for women, ADHD community for women, women with ADHD support, ADHD resources for women, ADHD and anxiety in women, ADHD podcast for neurodivergent women.
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Mar 20, 2025 • 1h 21min

43. ADHD & Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD): What it feels like and how to manage it

Hello tiny little ADHD besties, this episode is the official symposium on Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (see: don't RSD), that we have curated from our stunning back catalogue and put together for you to share with people that you might have RSD'd on or around or near so that they understand what it is and why it's the yuck.🦋 JOIN OUR PATREON COMMUNITY for extra subscriber-only episodes every week and the BEST community ever!!On the pod this week we answer a series of dilemmas specific to ADHD including;💌 “why does there have to be so much emotional baggage attached to birthdays for people with ADHD?”💌 "I can’t go back to my hairdresser because I had to cancel and then forgot to call them back and rebook for months”💌 “I never reply to messages but then I feel horrible when they don’t reply, I feel like a hypocrite!”💌 “Help I cancelled too many times due to ADHD burnout and now my workmates have started a new group chat without me”We discuss:What is Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD)? (And why ADHDers can feel rejection more intensely)Why birthdays can feel weirdly emotional for people with ADHDThe dopamine connection between expectations and rejectionLove languages, ADHD, and asking for what you need in relationshipsADHD texting paralysis—why we can’t reply, and how to make it easierHow to fix relationships after an RSD spiralWhat to do if you’ve canceled too many times due to burnoutHow to stop self-sabotaging friendships & work relationshipsIreggy seggyyyyyy:This week we play "RSDelightful" - a segment where we read out RSD moments submitted by YOU GUYS and further discuss why RSD is super sucky*(Please note: The following episode was edited by Tara, so audio quality and cuts not at 'Grace Level', thank you for your patience and understanding during this Grace-less time)Download our free Emoji Code CheatsheetWe will be back in your 🤌🐣🦄👂’s NEXT THURSDAYAnd until then: DON’T RSD EVER EVER EVERGrace and Ta xxx*medical terminology for: ‘is extremely difficult to manage’----------------------------🦋 WANT MORE ADHD BESTIES? JOIN OUR PATREON COMMUNITY for subscriber-only episodes every week, bestie chat groups, live Q&As, downloadables and so much more!Find us on socials (so it's not just our husbands commenting 👨‍🦲👨‍🦱)🌈 IG @adhdbestiespodcast🌈 TikTok @adhdbestiespodcast❗️ SUBMIT your Divergent Dilemma for us to read on the podcast: https://adhdbesties.com/dilemmas/ (you can stay anon if you like!)Music by VocalistaKeywords: ADHD women’s podcast, ADHD for women, ADHD in women, ADHD support for women, ADHD empowerment, ADHD tips for women, ADHD self-care, ADHD strategies for women, neurodivergent women’s experiences, ADHD mental health for women, ADHD personal stories, ADHD late diagnosis, ADHD focus tips, ADHD executive functioning, ADHD and RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), ADHD coping strategies, ADHD and motherhood, ADHD treatment for women, women’s ADHD podcast, ADHD medication for women, ADHD wellness for women, ADHD community for women, women with ADHD support, ADHD resources for women, ADHD and anxiety in women, ADHD podcast for neurodivergent women.
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Mar 13, 2025 • 1h 15min

42. ADHD & feeling BEHIND IN LIFE with finances, home-ownership, relationships & career 💸🏠💍

Hello stunning little neurodivergent brains On the pod this week Grace is guilt peeing and panic flushing... meanwhile Tara is finally not bogarting the eventful weeks, and ALSO she does like musicals and needs everyone to know it.🦋 JOIN OUR PATREON COMMUNITY for extra subscriber-only episodes every week and the BEST community ever!!💌 Dilem lem lem: “I feel like due to being ADHD, I’m behind in life and not achieving milestones other people are. Have you girls ever felt like this? Will I ever catch up?”We discuss: ADHDers/neurodivergent people often take unique paths, and that's okay.Why comparing ADHDers to neurotypical milestones is unhelpful.Why getting your driver's license can be an overwhelming thing for ADHDers.We MUSE 🤔 that ADHDers may own fewer homes or be less financially set by 40, but do we avoid midlife crises?Embracing the person we are now, separate from our underdeveloped prefrontal cortex days.🤌 RECS:Tara is recommending at-home clothes dye (in the washing machine - sooo ADHD friendly)Grace is recommending getting the app for your TV remote (because she's losing hers constantly)We also mention 'Top 5 regrets of the dying' by Bronnie Ware🦋 Ireggy Seggy: RSDelightful (Part 2!)We share what you guys have been RSDing about (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria). We’re being kicked while we’re down, we’re being sexy worms, we’re leaving our windscreen wiper tanks dry and we’re giving automechanic advice (again, sorry).We will be back in your gorgeous little tiny ND ears next Thursday as always!We bloody love you and we bloody hope you don’t RSD okay?T and G xxxx----------------------------🦋 WANT MORE ADHD BESTIES? JOIN OUR PATREON COMMUNITY for subscriber-only episodes every week, bestie chat groups, live Q&As, downloadables and so much more!Find us on socials (so it's not just our husbands commenting 👨‍🦲👨‍🦱)🌈 IG @adhdbestiespodcast🌈 TikTok @adhdbestiespodcast❗️ SUBMIT your Divergent Dilemma for us to read on the podcast: https://adhdbesties.com/dilemmas/ (you can stay anon if you like!)Music by VocalistaKeywords: ADHD women’s podcast, ADHD for women, ADHD in women, ADHD support for women, ADHD empowerment, ADHD tips for women, ADHD self-care, ADHD strategies for women, neurodivergent women’s experiences, ADHD mental health for women, ADHD personal stories, ADHD late diagnosis, ADHD focus tips, ADHD executive functioning, ADHD and RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), ADHD coping strategies, ADHD and motherhood, ADHD treatment for women, women’s ADHD podcast, ADHD medication for women, ADHD wellness for women, ADHD community for women, women with ADHD support, ADHD resources for women, ADHD and anxiety in women, ADHD podcast for neurodivergent women.
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Mar 6, 2025 • 1h 7min

41. "Tell me why I BINGE EAT even when I'm happy" 🍫🙃 ADHD, impulsive eating & sensory needs

Hi tiny little ADHD babes,In today’s episode, Grace is forcing Tara to do her recommendation in a Kiwi accent even though she's in the throes of PMDD (cute). We discuss important subjects: like “what ARE the cakes in men’s urinals made out of?”  and "public proposals, sweet or stressful?". Meanwhile, Grace shares an inattentive moment that she's still spiralling about (spoiler: her leather couch is NOT okay 🫠)💌 DIVERGENT DILEMMA: “I get why my ADHD makes me binge eat when I’m sad, but why do I binge eat even when I'm HAPPY?!"We discuss:ADHD & Emotional Eating – Understanding why ADHDers use food for emotional regulation and sensory input.Sensory Needs & ADHD – How food provides vestibular and proprioceptive system input for neurodivergent brains.Blood Sugar & ADHD Symptoms – Why stable glucose levels help mood, focus, and prevent binge eating.Impulsive Eating & ADHD – Managing erratic eating patterns and emotional food cravings.Women with ADHD & Eating Habits – How dysregulation affects appetite, fullness cues, and nutrition.Food as ADHD Self-Regulation – Identifying foods that support sensory and emotional balance.ADHD, Binge Eating & Overeating – Why even when life is good, ADHD brains can still struggle with food.👻 IREGGY SEGGY: The H in ADHD stands for historyWe discuss the anarchy that would ensue if ADHDers were present at key historic moments like the moon landing, the Trojan horse and invention of the printing press.🤌 RECS:Tara: Guy Montgomery’s Guy Mont Spelling BeeGrace: Cancer Council Face Day Wear CC Cream Sunscreen SPF 50Sending you all of the don’t RSD vibes.Lots and lots of love,Grace and Ta xxxxx----------------------------🦋 WANT MORE ADHD BESTIES? JOIN OUR PATREON COMMUNITY for subscriber-only episodes every week, bestie chat groups, live Q&As, downloadables and so much more!Find us on socials (so it's not just our husbands commenting 👨‍🦲👨‍🦱)🌈 IG @adhdbestiespodcast🌈 TikTok @adhdbestiespodcast❗️ SUBMIT your Divergent Dilemma for us to read on the podcast: https://adhdbesties.com/dilemmas/ (you can stay anon if you like!)Music by VocalistaKeywords: ADHD women’s podcast, ADHD for women, ADHD in women, ADHD support for women, ADHD empowerment, ADHD tips for women, ADHD self-care, ADHD strategies for women, neurodivergent women’s experiences, ADHD mental health for women, ADHD personal stories, ADHD late diagnosis, ADHD focus tips, ADHD executive functioning, ADHD and RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), ADHD coping strategies, ADHD and motherhood, ADHD treatment for women, women’s ADHD podcast, ADHD medication for women, ADHD wellness for women, ADHD community for women, women with ADHD support, ADHD resources for women, ADHD and anxiety in women, ADHD podcast for neurodivergent women.
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Mar 1, 2025 • 3min

📣 We're doing our very first LIVE besties event!! (in Australia)

Besties, we're popping into your feed with a special announcement, and if you're a Western Australian local, you do NOT want to miss this event!We're doing our very first LIVE ADHD Besties event to celebrate the launch of Grace's amazing book The ADHD Focus Friend 🎉📕. The event will be held down in Margaret River at the arts centre - the HEART on the 13th March. The deets:ADHD, LATE-DIAGNOSIS & WOMEN: book launch and Q&ADate: March 13thVenue: The HEART (arts centre) Margaret River, Western AustraliaCost: Tickets required, but it's pay what you can 💜 Doors & bar: 6pmTalk: 6.30pm followed by book sales and signings A complimentary glass of Dirt Temple Wines will be provided on arrival🌟  GRAB YOUR TICKET NOW BESTIE! 🌟In this cosy, unfiltered discussion we'll chat about:Late-Diagnosis: Explore why many women receive an ADHD diagnosis later in life and what that means for your identity and well-being.Unmasking & Authenticity: Learn about the challenges of masking symptoms, managing nervous system regulation, navigating RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), and understanding hormonal impacts.Practical, Science-Backed Strategies: Gain actionable tips that blend scientific insights with real-world experiences and humour.Stick around for a live Q&A and bring your burning questions on all things neurospicy! Eeeeek, we can't wait to meet our WA besties IRL 😍Don't RSD EVER, Grace and Tara xx----------------------------🦋 WANT MORE ADHD BESTIES? JOIN OUR PATREON COMMUNITY for subscriber-only episodes every week, bestie chat groups, live Q&As, downloadables and so much more!Find us on socials (so it's not just our husbands commenting 👨‍🦲👨‍🦱)🌈 IG @adhdbestiespodcast🌈 TikTok @adhdbestiespodcast❗️ SUBMIT your Divergent Dilemma for us to read on the podcast: https://adhdbesties.com/dilemmas/ (you can stay anon if you like!)Music by VocalistaKeywords: ADHD women’s podcast, ADHD for women, ADHD in women, ADHD support for women, ADHD empowerment, ADHD tips for women, ADHD self-care, ADHD strategies for women, neurodivergent women’s experiences, ADHD mental health for women, ADHD personal stories, ADHD late diagnosis, ADHD focus tips, ADHD executive functioning, ADHD and RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), ADHD coping strategies, ADHD and motherhood, ADHD treatment for women, women’s ADHD podcast, ADHD medication for women, ADHD wellness for women, ADHD community for women, women with ADHD support, ADHD resources for women, ADHD and anxiety in women, ADHD podcast for neurodivergent women.
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Feb 27, 2025 • 1h 5min

40. "Help! My mum is going to tell the psychiatrist that I DON'T have ADHD!"

Hellloooo besties In today's ep Grace is doing unimportant author-y things like promoting her chart topping book while Tara is doing genuinely important things like avoiding washing her colander.Tara gives insight into why ADHD medication is very personal and specific to each person and why it's a journey not a destination for her.💌 DIVERGENT DILEMMA: “My mum doesn't believe I have ADHD and she has to fill out my ADHD assessment form for my psychiatrist"We cover:Generational ADHD Gaps – why older generations dismiss neurodivergence.ADHD Stigma & Myths – outdated views affecting diagnosis.Parental Doubt & Gaslighting – handling family skepticism.ADHD & Mental Health - changing views on neurodivergence.ADHD Diagnosis Process –  how it varies by location.ADHD & AuDHD Assessments – getting diagnosed despite resistance.Self-Advocacy in Diagnosis – moving forward without family support.❤️ Link to write in your "IT FINALLY CLICKED" moment (about the moment that your support person finally understood your ADHD). Click here to read about the WA Labour Party's promise about GP diagnosis of ADHD.🤌 RECS:Tara: Gives an update on Kiss Nails and introduces us to Goblin Tools.Grace: Recommends big fat keyrings like these.👻 IREGGY SEGGY: How long does it *actually* take to put fuel in your car or read a book? 🤔 (and to that we say, what kind of book, how long, what's your average reading speed, will you be interrupted?) We attempt and fail to answer this and many other questions as we put our time inattention (previously referred to as time-blindness) to the test.We will be back in your GNEs* next THURSDAY!Until then just even try to RSD, we'll find you, and we will HUG it out of you.Ta and sweet little baby Gxxxxx----------------------------🦋 WANT MORE ADHD BESTIES? JOIN OUR PATREON COMMUNITY for subscriber-only episodes every week, bestie chat groups, live Q&As, downloadables and so much more!Find us on socials (so it's not just our husbands commenting 👨‍🦲👨‍🦱)🌈 IG @adhdbestiespodcast🌈 TikTok @adhdbestiespodcast❗️ SUBMIT your Divergent Dilemma for us to read on the podcast: https://adhdbesties.com/dilemmas/ (you can stay anon if you like!)Music by VocalistaKeywords: ADHD women’s podcast, ADHD for women, ADHD in women, ADHD support for women, ADHD empowerment, ADHD tips for women, ADHD self-care, ADHD strategies for women, neurodivergent women’s experiences, ADHD mental health for women, ADHD personal stories, ADHD late diagnosis, ADHD focus tips, ADHD executive functioning, ADHD and RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), ADHD coping strategies, ADHD and motherhood, ADHD treatment for women, women’s ADHD podcast, ADHD medication for women, ADHD wellness for women, ADHD community for women, women with ADHD support, ADHD resources for women, ADHD and anxiety in women, ADHD podcast for neurodivergent women.
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Feb 20, 2025 • 1h 2min

39. When ADHD makes you feel like you're ⚠️ TOO MUCH ⚠️ (Masking & RSD)

Hi bestiessssOn todays episode, Tara’s out of meltdown and is a bit more organised* *she’s doing HIGHLY profound things like sewing pants and brandishing bobbins with Chloe Wilder (Listen to Chloe’s ADHD island here),Meanwhile Grace is taking her journals on a little beach trip (don’t worry she asked them first) in her bid to stay unperceived and allowing herself to be indulgent about meeting her needs.🫣 RSD corner: Tara completely messed up on the style episode “Alice Bornstein” is actually called ALLISON Bornstein (click here to see her Instagram for sensational fashion advice). We also discuss why ADHDers remember so many details when it’s a hyperfocus but can’t remember someone’s name.😻 Gorgeous Kate from the UK teaches us how to RSD about whether your cat loves 1. You, 2. Your partner or 3. Their cat tree more Important note: She is adorable and we’re obsessed with her 💖💌 DILEMMA OF THE WEEK:Nille from Norway asks: "do you have any techniques for when you’re out and about and want to calm your excitability and hyperactivity down in social situations?"We discuss: ✅ How cultural attitudes towards ADHD impact self-advocacy✅ Whether telling people about ADHD & RSD upfront can help communication✅ The balance between masking for safety vs. embracing your true self✅ How ADHD stimulant medication, movement techniques & support groups can help socialisingIf you’ve ever struggled with feeling “too much” in social settings, this episode is for you, baby girl!🥳 Ireggy seggy TIIIIME!This week we play "RSDelightful" - a new segment where we read out RSD moments submitted by YOU GUYS and discuss... because we haaaard relate. We also get caught up in a deep dive no one asked for on why ADHDers might struggle with competitiveness while playing games - who knew we had so much to say?🤌 RECS:We forgot to do them - VERY on brand  🫠 ✨We’ll be back in your cute little neurodivergent 👂s next Thursday.Don’t RSD EVER PLZ 💃🏻Love ALWAYS Tara and Baby G xxxxxxxx----------------------------🦋 WANT MORE ADHD BESTIES? JOIN OUR PATREON COMMUNITY for subscriber-only episodes every week, bestie chat groups, live Q&As, downloadables and so much more!Find us on socials (so it's not just our husbands commenting 👨‍🦲👨‍🦱)🌈 IG @adhdbestiespodcast🌈 TikTok @adhdbestiespodcast❗️ SUBMIT your Divergent Dilemma for us to read on the podcast: https://adhdbesties.com/dilemmas/ (you can stay anon if you like!)Music by VocalistaKeywords: ADHD women’s podcast, ADHD for women, ADHD in women, ADHD support for women, ADHD empowerment, ADHD tips for women, ADHD self-care, ADHD strategies for women, neurodivergent women’s experiences, ADHD mental health for women, ADHD personal stories, ADHD late diagnosis, ADHD focus tips, ADHD executive functioning, ADHD and RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), ADHD coping strategies, ADHD and motherhood, ADHD treatment for women, women’s ADHD podcast, ADHD medication for women, ADHD wellness for women, ADHD community for women, women with ADHD support, ADHD resources for women, ADHD and anxiety in women, ADHD podcast for neurodivergent women.
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Feb 13, 2025 • 1h 5min

38. How to navigate ADHD & AuDHD meltdowns and shutdowns: tips for you and your loved ones

Oh HIII, bestie babes!In today's episode, we're ADHD-ing all over each other, and Tara is sick of people feeling bad about oversharing. Oversharing is the new sharing. Okay??? Good.💌 DILEMMA OF THE WEEK:Nick asks: "I don't understand the difference between ADHD / AuDHD meltdowns and shutdowns! Can you explain?"We’re recording this episode just an hour after Tara had an ADHD meltdown—because she wants to show you what an ADHD meltdown actually looks like.Have you ever felt extremely disconnected, flighty, unfocused, anxious, or struggled to speak or make eye contact? You may have been experiencing an ADHD or AuDHD meltdown or shutdown.In this episode, we:Define how meltdowns and shutdowns feel for each of us in the context of ADHD and AuDHD—physically, socially, and psychologically.Explain how they differ and share our personal experiences.Break down triggers (sensory overload, emotional overwhelm, executive dysfunction).Talk about what helps us and what support people can do.✨ RECS:Tara is recommending @femalephysioco for an ADHD-friendly way to schedule pelvic floor exercises.Grace is recommending the book What I Mean When I Say I’m Autistic by Annie Kotowicz. Also, don’t forget to check out the AuDHD chat and other resources in our 🦋 Patreon community! 🦋We’ll be back in your absolutely stunning 👂 ’s next Thursday.(don’t bloody ever RSD or we’ll be so, so cross with you!)theme song playsLalalala LOVE, Tara & Grace xx----------------------------🦋 WANT MORE ADHD BESTIES? JOIN OUR PATREON COMMUNITY for subscriber-only episodes every week, bestie chat groups, live Q&As, downloadables and so much more!Find us on socials (so it's not just our husbands commenting 👨‍🦲👨‍🦱)🌈 IG @adhdbestiespodcast🌈 TikTok @adhdbestiespodcast❗️ SUBMIT your Divergent Dilemma for us to read on the podcast: https://adhdbesties.com/dilemmas/ (you can stay anon if you like!)Music by VocalistaKeywords: ADHD women’s podcast, ADHD for women, ADHD in women, ADHD support for women, ADHD empowerment, ADHD tips for women, ADHD self-care, ADHD strategies for women, neurodivergent women’s experiences, ADHD mental health for women, ADHD personal stories, ADHD late diagnosis, ADHD focus tips, ADHD executive functioning, ADHD and RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), ADHD coping strategies, ADHD and motherhood, ADHD treatment for women, women’s ADHD podcast, ADHD medication for women, ADHD wellness for women, ADHD community for women, women with ADHD support, ADHD resources for women, ADHD and anxiety in women, ADHD podcast for neurodivergent women.
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Feb 6, 2025 • 60min

37. ADHD & clothing: simplifying your wardrobe to reduce decision fatigue

Hi bestiesssssThis week Tara will apparently do anything for a Dorset accent and Grace is asking for advice on whether she needs new beauty products, however the only answer she will accept is a resounding and supportive yes. We have a lot of fun introducing our new segment 🫠 RSD corner 🫠 where an RSD shared is an RSD halved.A lovely listener sent us an email with some recommendations including: The Samsung digital door lockOur ADHD emoji texting codeWe discuss ADHD stimming (self stimulatory behaviour), self soothing with ADHD and pharmacogenomic testing a type of genetic analysis that looks at an individual's DNA to predict how they will respond to certain medications and potential side effects or a particular dosage.✨ RECS:Tara: (pre-rec*) Kiss Impress press on nails  💅Grace: Vista HD wall Projector 📽️💌 DILEMMA OF THE WEEK: Karen asks "I feel like I use up so much mental energy choosing clothes every day and I need your help with organization and gamification"We LOVE this question, and cover:✔️ Shortcuts for choosing outfits easily✔️ Apps for styling and cataloguing outfits ✔️ Photo guides for daily outfit inspiration✔️ Demand avoidance around outfit choices✔️ Balancing comfort, style, and personality in clothing✔️ Style versus fashion: What’s the difference?✔️ Creating a ‘uniform’ for different occasions (casual, corporate, special events)✔️ Allison Bornstein’s 3-word method for describing your style (practical, aspirational, emotional)✔️ Why seasonal wardrobes & de-cluttering are essential for ADHD/AuDHD brains✔️ Organizing wardrobes in a way that's neuro-affirming for ND brainsIreggy Seggy: The dreaded PIG in the middle, where in true ADHD fashion Grace forgets what game we’re playing and zones out (we’re so sorry guys) then tells Tara she's fired from the podcast when the dysregulation catches up with her 🫠Don't forget to: SEND US YOUR 3 WORDS TO DESCRIBE YOUR STYLE!Love youuu and don't RSD!Tata and G-Baby xxx----------------------------🦋 WANT MORE ADHD BESTIES? JOIN OUR PATREON COMMUNITY for subscriber-only episodes every week, bestie chat groups, live Q&As, downloadables and so much more!Find us on socials (so it's not just our husbands commenting 👨‍🦲👨‍🦱)🌈 IG @adhdbestiespodcast🌈 TikTok @adhdbestiespodcast❗️ SUBMIT your Divergent Dilemma for us to read on the podcast: https://adhdbesties.com/dilemmas/ (you can stay anon if you like!)Music by VocalistaKeywords: ADHD women’s podcast, ADHD for women, ADHD in women, ADHD support for women, ADHD empowerment, ADHD tips for women, ADHD self-care, ADHD strategies for women, neurodivergent women’s experiences, ADHD mental health for women, ADHD personal stories, ADHD late diagnosis, ADHD focus tips, ADHD executive functioning, ADHD and RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), ADHD coping strategies, ADHD and motherhood, ADHD treatment for women, women’s ADHD podcast, ADHD medication for women, ADHD wellness for women, ADHD community for women, women with ADHD support, ADHD resources for women, ADHD and anxiety in women, ADHD podcast for neurodivergent women.

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