Fan Favorite: Daniel Goleman on Expanding Your Mind With Emotional Intelligence

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Feb 15, 2025

Join psychologist and bestselling author Daniel Goleman as he delves into the power of emotional intelligence. Discover how self-awareness and empathy are essential for personal and professional success. Goleman emphasizes the importance of mindfulness and meditation in emotional growth, revealing techniques to develop these skills. He discusses the role of purpose and connection in overcoming isolation, especially post-pandemic, and explores the traits of effective leaders. This engaging conversation showcases emotional intelligence as a crucial factor in thriving relationships and careers.

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INSIGHT

Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence (EQ) involves self-awareness, self-management, empathy, and social skills.
High EQ is more important than high IQ for career success, especially in leadership roles.

ADVICE

Learnability of EQ

Cultivate emotional intelligence; it's learnable at any age.
Start early, as emotional circuits mature in the mid-20s, but adults can relearn.

ANECDOTE

Guard Dog & Wise Owl

A five-year-old, taught emotional regulation, described his anger as his "guard dog" getting upset.
He then used his "wise owl" (prefrontal cortex) to calm himself, demonstrating learned emotional control.

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Emotional Intelligence

Why It Can Matter More Than IQ

Daniel Goleman

In 'Emotional Intelligence,' Daniel Goleman presents a compelling argument that emotional intelligence (EI) is crucial for success, happiness, and virtue. Drawing on research in psychology and neuroscience, Goleman explains how EI, which includes self-awareness, self-discipline, and empathy, shapes our destiny. The book details five key skills of emotional intelligence: self-awareness, managing emotions, motivation, recognizing emotions in others, and social skills. Goleman shows how these skills can be nurtured and strengthened throughout adulthood, benefiting our health, relationships, and work performance[2][3][4].

On this episode of Conversations with Tom, psychologist and New York Times bestselling author Daniel Goleman, Ph. D, joins Tom Bilyeu to discuss such matters and more as they explore why it’s critical you become self-aware of your emotional intelligence and begin to develop it, all while pursuing your purpose and meaning in life. They discuss what emotional intelligence and emotional IQ is, how you can develop and strengthen it at any age, the power of practicing meditation regularly, how purpose and meaning is critical to leading a successful life, the common traits of successful leaders, why you need to have empathy, optimism, love and kindness, and so much more.

ORIGINAL AIR DATE: 2-7-21

SHOW NOTES:

Emotional Intelligence | Daniel breaks down what being emotionally intelligent looks like. [0:27]

Training | Daniel reveals what training emotional intelligence looks like. [3:36]

Adulthood | Daniel reveals what you may need to unlearn as an adult. [11:09]

Breathing | Daniel reveals the powerful and positive impact of breathing exercises. [21:35]

Importance | Daniel reveals why it matters that the western world adopts mediation. [29:13]

Social Brain | Daniel breaks down what your social brain is. [35:21]

Meaning | Daniel reveals why meaning, purpose, and beliefs are so important to us. [44:09]

Ruthless | Daniel reveals why so many kids can have moments of ruthlessness. [1:19:55]

Empathy | Daniel shares how empathy is teachable. [1:21:42]

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