The Art of Manliness A Playbook for Modern Dating
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Feb 14, 2022 
Logan Ury, a behavioral scientist and dating coach at Hinge, sheds light on navigating modern dating. She explains the three dating tendencies—romanticizers, maximizers, and satisficers—and their impact on finding love. Ury discusses how attachment styles influence relationships and offers practical tips for successful first dates. She emphasizes the importance of clear communication instead of ghosting when things don’t work out, and advocates for a more nuanced approach to connections, moving beyond just the initial spark.
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Dating Difficulty
- Modern dating is harder due to the paradox of choice, creating stress from numerous options.
- The pressure to find "the one" adds to this difficulty, as individuals bear the sole responsibility for their choices.
Advice for Romanticizers
- Romanticizers should focus on building strong relationships rather than seeking a fairytale.
- They should prioritize effort, growth, and communication over idealized expectations.
Advice for Maximizers
- Maximizers should commit to a great person instead of endlessly searching for "the perfect" partner.
- Focus on building a relationship rather than waiting for someone 5% better.
