Dear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb and Guy Winch Encore: Ep. 11 - Haley's Perfect Sister
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Dec 23, 2025 AI Snips
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Caregiving Became A One-Person Job
- Haley describes weekly caregiving during COVID: grocery runs, cooking, overnight stays and emotional labor for her mid-80s parents.
- She resents sister Jill's short, sunny visits that energize parents while Haley carries the ongoing 'slog'.
Childhood Role Shaped Adult Family Position
- Haley grew up as an outsider who saw uncomfortable truths her family avoided and was punished for it.
- That childhood role shaped her adult dynamic of being the family's 'truth teller' and feeling marginalized.
Resentment Feels Like Lack Of Allies
- Resentment stems from perceived unfairness and lack of allies who validate her view.
- Haley feels isolated because parents and sisters align with each other, leaving her unsupported when she raises issues.