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Dealing with Perfectionism

Jan 7, 2025
Ellen Hendriksen, a clinical psychologist at Boston University's Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders and author of 'How to Be Enough,' dives into the complexities of perfectionism. She discusses its dual nature—how it fuels success yet can lead to dissatisfaction and strained relationships. Hendriksen shares insights on balancing high standards with self-care, the risk of growth stifled by fear, and the impact of perfectionism on collaboration in the workplace. Her practical advice encourages self-compassion and flexibility, promoting healthier professional dynamics.
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Quick takeaways

  • Perfectionism, while often associated with high achievement, can lead to dissatisfaction and alienation in both professional and personal contexts.
  • The rise of socially prescribed perfectionism is driving increased feelings of inadequacy, with individuals pressured to attain unrealistic standards influenced by social media.

Deep dives

Understanding Perfectionism and Its Impact

Perfectionism is often perceived as a commendable trait, characterized by high standards and attention to detail. While this can drive success in various fields, it can lead to mental and physical harm when one begins to equate their self-worth with their performance. Many individuals experiencing perfectionism do not enter therapy claiming to be perfectionists, but rather expressing feelings of inadequacy and overwhelm. This suggests that perfectionism is more about an inability to feel satisfied with oneself rather than a desire to achieve flawless outcomes.

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