8 Ways You’re Unknowingly Sabotaging Your Comeback Season

Apr 20, 2025

Are you ready for a fresh start? Discover the eight sneaky ways you might be sabotaging your comeback. From believing you're behind to underestimating small changes, this discussion digs deep into mindset shifts. Explore the neuroscience behind self-talk and why focusing on your 'why' matters more than just the 'how.' Learn why waiting until you're ready could hold you back and how self-love trumps self-hate in achieving lasting success. Get ready to embrace your journey and make your comeback truly stick!

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You're Not Behind, You're Practicing

Believing you're "behind" sabotages comebacks because public success hides prior failures.
Victoria Hutchins urges trusting your own timing and learning from repeated attempts.

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Announce Goals And Use Accountability

Tell people your goals and create an action plan that includes accountability to boost success rates.
Victoria Hutchins cites a Michigan State study showing accountability nearly doubles goal achievement.

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Subconscious Learns What You Repeat

Your subconscious processes millions of inputs and learns salience through repetition and language.
Victoria Hutchins warns negative self-talk trains your brain to prioritize doubt and sabotage progress.

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Why a Comeback Matters Now

02:16 • 35sec

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Believing You're Behind

02:51 • 3min

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Stop Being Apologetic About Wants

06:19 • 4min

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The Subconscious Shapes Success

10:28 • 4min

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Connect Your Why to the How

14:46 • 3min

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Small Changes Compound

17:17 • 4min

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Focus On What You Can Control

Don't Wait Until You're Ready

25:45 • 2min

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Self-Hate Won't Fuel Lasting Success

27:53 • 2min

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Getting back in the saddle? I love that for you. But here’s the truth: staying on track takes more than motivation. If you’ve been craving a fresh start but don't know where to start, this episode is for you. We’re breaking down 8 of the most common ways people sabotage their own progress—from relying too much on discipline to using self-hate as fuel. Whether you have a big dream or just want to get unstuck, you deserve to enter your next chapter with eyes wide open. Let’s talk about the philosophy and psychology of making a comeback stick.

EPISODE OUTLINE

00:00 Intro

02:40 Eight ways to sabotage a comeback

03:22 1. Believing you're behind

06:19 2. Being apologetic about what you want

07:18 You hold yourself back when you move in silence

08:41 You're being judgmental when you assume people are judging you

10:28 3. Underestimating the subconscious mind

10:45 The neuroscience of manifestation

12:46 Self-deprecation is manifesting too

14:37 4. Focusing only on your how & not your why

14:47 Nietzsche's will to power