Anxious attachment is bred by inconsistent caregivers, leading to a belief that love is conditional and not secure.
Healing childhood trauma is crucial in resolving attachment issues and requires confronting and working through past traumas using therapy and self-reflection.
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Understanding Anxiety and Attachment Styles in Dating
Anxiety is a fear of the future that can cripple us. The three major attachment styles are anxious, avoidant, and secure. Anxious attachment is bred by inconsistent caregivers, leading to a belief that love is conditional and not secure. Avoidant attachment stems from a childhood where love and emotions were unsafe, causing the person to bottle up their feelings and avoid vulnerability. Anxious and avoidant types often attract each other due to a push-pull dynamic. However, a healthy relationship requires secure attachment.
Healing Childhood Traumas and Doing the Inner Child Work
Healing childhood trauma is crucial in resolving attachment issues. Anxious attachment style can result in a constant need for validation and acting out when needs are not met. Avoidant attachment style involves avoiding vulnerability and suppressing emotions. To heal, one must confront and work through childhood traumas, using methods like therapy and self-reflection. It's important to acknowledge and validate the inner child, reassuring them of their safety, worthiness, and value.
Navigating Dating with Anxiety and Attachment Styles
Dating with anxiety can be challenging. Anxious individuals often crave certainty and reassurance, leading to overanalyzing and seeking constant validation. Avoidant individuals may struggle with showing emotional availability and fear getting too close. Both can be detrimental to forming healthy connections. Self-soothing, self-validation, and trusting oneself are necessary to navigate dating with anxiety. Slowing down, setting boundaries, and having open communication are key in building secure relationships.
The Importance of Doing the Work and Becoming Secure
Doing the work and becoming secure involves self-reflection, identifying patterns, and taking ownership of one's emotions and actions. It is crucial to differentiate between anxiety and intuition, learning to trust oneself. Becoming secure does not mean never encountering anxious or avoidant individuals. Instead, it enables quicker identification of compatibility and red flags. Completing the inner work allows for healthier relationships and the ability to set boundaries and prioritize self-worth.
Welcome to the first episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show! On this episode, Sabrina shares her journey with anxiety, anxious attachment style, and ways she healed it and how to 'do the work' authentically.
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