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#113 Become CONFIDENT In 85 Minutes: How To Defeat Self-Doubt | Dr. Shadé Zahrai

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Jan 14, 2026
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Dr Shadé Zahrai
Dr. Shadé Zahrai, a Harvard-trained leadership coach and author, dives deep into self-doubt, revealing it as a signal rather than an enemy. She uncovers the four drivers of self-doubt and emphasizes that confidence follows action. Dr. Zahrai shares practical tips to boost perceived confidence through posture, eye contact, and vocal tone, plus the counterintuitive idea that the opposite of self-doubt is self-trust. With insights into handling manipulation and improving memory through handwriting, her strategies will empower listeners to embrace action and build resilience.
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INSIGHT

Expectation Bias Creates Your Reality

  • Expectation bias shapes experience: what you expect, you tend to notice.
  • Dr Shadé Zahrai recounts the scar study showing beliefs created perceived social rejection despite no observable difference.
INSIGHT

Four Drivers Explain Self-Doubt

  • Self-doubt arises from four drivers: self-acceptance, agency, autonomy, and emotional adaptability.
  • Identifying which driver is loudest gives a targeted pathway to strengthen that area.
ADVICE

Label Thoughts, Then Target The Driver

  • Separate yourself from negative thoughts by naming them and using cognitive diffusion.
  • Then ask which of the four drivers is attacking and address that specific attribute.
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