Harvard professor Arthur C. Brooks and Oprah Winfrey discuss the four pillars of happiness: family, friendship, work, and faith. They explore the importance of positive and negative emotions, emotional management, and strategies for understanding and managing happiness to build a happier life.
Happiness consists of enjoyment, satisfaction, and meaning in life, not just fleeting emotions; to build a happier life, focus on adding people and memories for enjoyment, managing what you have for satisfaction, and finding purpose for meaning.
Rather than being a destination, happiness is a continuous journey of becoming happier, requiring the inclusion of negative emotions and experiences for growth and appreciation of positive ones; managing emotions allows for resilience, learning, and a happier life.
Deep dives
Understanding the Three Psychological Phenomena of Happiness
Happiness is not just a feeling; it comprises three psychological phenomena: enjoyment with life, satisfaction with life, and meaning in life. These elements, rather than fleeting emotions, make up real happiness. Achieving happiness involves adding people and memories to increase enjoyment, managing not just what you have but also what you want to maintain satisfaction, and finding purpose and direction in your life for a sense of meaning.
Happiness as a Direction, Not a Destination
Contrary to popular belief, happiness is not a destination to reach; rather, it is a continuous journey of becoming happier. Negative emotions and experiences are necessary for growth and understanding in life. Without them, we would not fully appreciate the positive emotions and experiences. Managing emotions and experiences allows us to navigate towards a happier life by gaining resilience, learning from challenges, and appreciating the significance of both positive and negative emotions.
Managing Emotions and Building the Four Pillars of Happiness
Managing emotions is crucial for personal growth and happiness. Through techniques like journaling, meditation, prayer, and therapy, individuals can become more aware of their feelings and choose their reactions. Additionally, building a happier life involves focusing on four pillars: faith, family, friendship, and work. Faith refers to a sense of purpose and transcendence beyond oneself, while family emphasizes the profound love we have for our loved ones. Developing real friendships, rather than superficial connections, is essential for combating loneliness. Lastly, finding joy in work comes from earning success and serving others, rather than from material possessions or social status.
You can get happier. And getting there will be the adventure of your lifetime. Harvard professor Arthur C. Brooks shares a few tips on how to do it from his new book — co-written with the one and only Oprah Winfrey — "Build the Life You Want."
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