The Liz Moody Podcast

The Invisible Forces Keeping You Exhausted & Anxious—And How To Break Free

Oct 1, 2025
Elise Loehnen, a New York Times bestselling author and host of Pulling the Thread, discusses the cultural conditioning that makes women feel guilty about rest. She shares her personal journey from breaking her neck to confronting her ever-present 'shoulds.' Topics include performative motherhood, the exhaustion of societal narratives, and how to reframe envy into insight. Elise provides practical tools for breaking free from these limiting stories, emphasizing the need for emotional honesty and creating supportive networks among women.
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INSIGHT

Service As Female Identity

  • Cultural conditioning teaches women to subjugate their wants to others and equates being a “good woman” with constant service.
  • This inherited story creates perpetual busywork that prevents women from tuning into their own needs.
ADVICE

Name Fear, Then Breathe

  • When fear drives your behavior, name the fear and breathe into it rather than trying to fix everything with busyness.
  • Practice acknowledging fear to make it dissipate and reduce reactive overcontrol.
ANECDOTE

Broken Neck Forced A Reality Check

  • Elise broke her neck after a fall and refused to stop working until doctors intervened and she had to rest for weeks.
  • That forced rest revealed her performative mothering stories and showed her husband would step in when she let go.
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