We Can Do Hard Things Are You A High Functioning Codependent? Find Out with Terri Cole
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Apr 15, 2025 
Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert, joins the conversation to explore high-functioning codependency. She shares her personal recovery journey and the emotional toll of being overly invested in others. The discussion highlights essential self-awareness techniques for managing relationships and protecting one's energy. Listeners learn about the complexities of love, boundaries, and the balance between functionality and support in relationships, all while discovering actionable practices for healthier interactions.
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The Salon Sink
- Terri Cole felt compelled to give up her salon sink to waiting customers, even though it wasn't necessary.
- She realized she was trying to control a situation outside her responsibility, driven by fear of others' frustration.
Niceness vs. Compulsion
- HFCs often mistake auto-accommodating for niceness, but it's a compulsion driven by discomfort with others' negative emotions.
- They prioritize avoiding conflict and maintaining peace, even at the cost of their own well-being.
Stay on Your Side of the Street
- Recognize that others' thoughts and feelings are their responsibility, not yours.
- Focus on managing your own internal state instead of trying to control external factors.
