Totally Booked with Zibby Terrence Real, US: Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship
Dec 6, 2022
Terry Real, a nationally recognized family therapist and bestselling author, dives deep into the intricate dynamics of relationships. He critiques toxic individualism and advocates for relational mindfulness, drawing on real client stories. The conversation touches on navigating trauma triggers and the inner child, emphasizing how past experiences shape our emotional responses. Terry also shares personal anecdotes about handling conflicts with his wife and hints at an upcoming documentary, making for a thought-provoking discussion on improving interpersonal connections.
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Toxic Individualism
- Individualism and patriarchy teach us to believe we are above nature and in control.
- This toxic delusion affects relationships, self-image, and even our planet.
Relational Mindfulness
- Practice relational mindfulness by asking yourself which part of you is being addressed.
- Respond from your wise adult self, not your reactive adaptive child.
The Chronic Liar
- A chronic liar learned to evade his controlling father.
- By acknowledging this childhood adaptation, he achieved a breakthrough with his wife.
