The Imperfects Dr Emily - You Had Me At Communication
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Nov 30, 2025 
Dr. Emily Musgrove, a clinical psychologist known for her engaging insights on communication and emotional regulation, dives into how our early experiences shape our communication styles. She explains that successful communication is rooted in emotion regulation rather than just language. Listeners learn practical strategies, such as the DEAR MAN technique for assertive requests and the BIFF method for handling high-conflict interactions. Emily emphasizes the importance of recognizing red flags in dating and offers tools to practice effective communication in real-time.
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Childhood Shapes Communication
- Communication patterns come from early learning histories and were often adaptive then but may harm us now.
- Dr Emily Musgrove urges curiosity about who modelled those patterns and how they served you in childhood.
Map Your Default Style
- Identify your predominant communication style using tools like the Thomas-Kilmann model.
- Use that map to see if you're high on assertiveness, cooperation, or tend toward avoidance so you can target change.
Regulation Beats Rhetoric
- The hardest part of communication is regulating emotion, not finding the right words.
- Dr Emily emphasises staying in a regulated 'healthy adult' or "wise mind" before speaking.
