Modern Wisdom #189 - Kyle Eschenroeder - How To Work Out What You Want To Want From Life
Kyle Eschenroeder, a marketer and writer, dives deep into the often-overlooked concept of discovering what you truly want to want in life. He discusses the pitfalls of default desires shaped by societal influences and emphasizes the importance of intentionality in shaping one's path. Listeners learn to embrace struggles as vital for personal growth and the contrast between fleeting fame and true fulfillment. Eschenroeder encourages reconnecting with childhood passions and highlights how building meaningful connections can lead to genuine happiness.
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Importance of Choosing Desires
- Following default desires can lead to a life of regret.
- Consciously choosing desires empowers a more fulfilling life.
Proust's Misguided Love
- Proust described wasting years pursuing a woman he didn't even like.
- This highlights how seductive default desires can be.
Freedom and Its Limits
- Modern society offers unprecedented freedom to choose desires.
- However, mimetic desires and ingrained patterns hinder this freedom.
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Intro
00:00 • 4min
Designing Our Desires
04:06 • 21min
The Value of Struggle
24:47 • 14min
The Illusion of Fame
39:01 • 9min
The True Wealth of Happiness
48:17 • 11min
Understanding Financial Mindset and the Pursuit of Happiness
59:08 • 3min
Embracing Ordinary: The Path to Authenticity
01:01:59 • 25min
Rediscovering Childhood Passions to Uncover Desires
01:26:37 • 2min
Cultivating Meaningful Goals
01:28:41 • 10min
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Kyle Eschenroeder is a marketer and a writer.
You do not want to live a life that you regret at the end of it. But working out what you WANT to want is a topic no one ever talks about.
When you follow your default desires, you're much more likely to find yourself at a place in life that you didn't really want to be, or mean to get to. Today, we learn how to step into our programming and actively design our direction in life. I love this topic.
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Read Kyle's Blog Post - http://www.kyleschen.com/2017/04/11/what-do-you-want-to-want/
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