

How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make and Keep Friends | Dr. Marisa G. Franco
176 snips Feb 13, 2023
Dr. Marisa G. Franco, a psychologist and professor at the University of Maryland, discusses the societal undervaluation of friendship compared to romantic love. She shares the impact of technology on relationships and explores how attachment styles shape our friendships. Franco highlights the importance of vulnerability in building connections, offers strategies to overcome loneliness, and emphasizes generosity in fostering meaningful relationships. She starkly reminds us of the devastating effects of isolation and the biological need for social connection.
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The Hierarchy of Love
- Society overvalues romantic love and undervalues friendship, especially for women.
- This hierarchy can harm both those in and out of romantic relationships, contributing to loneliness.
Technology's Impact on Connection
- Technology, starting with television, has contributed to a decline in social connection.
- This "displacement theory" suggests technology displaces in-person interaction, leading to increased loneliness.
The Toxicity of Loneliness
- Loneliness is a toxic state that negatively impacts mental and physical health.
- It creates a chronic stress state, leading to distrust, negativity, and reduced compassion.