The Thais Gibson Podcast THIS Is Why Avoidants Seem Fine After A Break Up
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Dec 1, 2024 Dive into the complex world of dismissive avoidant attachment styles and their seemingly unbothered demeanor after breakups. Discover how they mask emotional pain and the impact of childhood conditioning on their behavior. The discussion highlights key strategies for healing, the distinction between superficial and deep connections, and the importance of self-reflection. Personal anecdotes and practical advice offer clarity for those navigating the emotional aftermath, ensuring a compassionate approach to understanding and moving forward in relationships.
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Initial Relief and Distraction
- Mike DiZio felt relief after breakups, regaining independence and freedom from expectations.
- He initially focused on pleasurable activities to avoid processing the loss.
The Breakup Boomerang Effect
- Dismissive avoidants often experience a "breakup boomerang effect," initially feeling relief but later experiencing a delayed grieving period.
- This delay occurs because they repress emotions and avoid connection, leading to eventual loneliness.
Justifying the Breakup
- Mike explains that he would justify breakups by focusing on reasons why the relationship wouldn't have worked long-term.
- He would downplay the pain by highlighting incompatibilities, ultimately delaying true emotional processing.