Negotiate Anything The Hidden Cost of Being “Too Nice”
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Oct 16, 2025 
In this engaging discussion, self-esteem and relationship expert Natalie Lue reveals her journey from being a chronic people pleaser to a boundary-setting pro. She highlights how people-pleasing manifests in everyday life and its detrimental effects on relationships. Natalie teaches listeners to differentiate between actions driven by desire versus obligation, empowering them to reclaim their self-worth. She shares practical techniques for setting boundaries and emphasizes how saying no can enhance intimacy and respect in relationships.
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Illness Sparked A Boundary Awakening
- Natalie fell ill and received a dire prognosis which triggered a life-changing awakening about boundaries.
- That moment led her to start Baggage Reclaim and experiment with saying no to people-pleasing habits.
Motivation, Not Action, Reveals Pleasing
- People-pleasing is defined by why you act, not just what you do.
- Hidden agendas and controlling outcomes signal people-pleasing even when actions appear generous.
Boundaries Improve Intimacy
- People-pleasing acts as a mask that prevents genuine connection and intimacy.
- Being honest and setting boundaries increases emotional availability and relationship depth.