The Couples Therapist Couch

213: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Attachment with Dr. James Hawkins

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Jun 4, 2024

Dr. James Hawkins discusses Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and attachment on the podcast. Topics include success tied to vulnerability, bringing important issues forward, love and protection balance, the key role of validation, and typical client frequency in therapy.

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INSIGHT

Vulnerability is Core

Vulnerability is the core of deep relationship change.
Soothing vulnerability changes the relationship dynamic significantly.

INSIGHT

Fear of Love's Unique Risk

Fear in relationships is uniquely intense because it risks losing everything.
Loving deeply involves vulnerability that feels more exposing than other life risks.

ADVICE

Stay Close to Vulnerability

Therapists should stay close to clients' vulnerability without forcing them.
Notice and slow down emotional moments to avoid negative cycles dominating therapy.

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