The Couples Therapist Couch

Shane Birkel
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Oct 20, 2025 • 55min

264: Parents in Love: A Guide to Great Sex After Kids with Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy

This episode is brought to you by Alma. Visit https://helloalma.com/dg/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=paid&utm_campaign=privatepractice to learn more Get the Couples Therapy 101 course: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/ Join the Couples Therapist Inner Circle: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/inner-circle-new Join The Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/295562197518469/ In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy about Parents in Love: A Guide to Great Sex After Kids. Rebecca is a certified sex therapist, couples therapist, and author who helps individuals & couples strengthen emotional bonds, overcome desire differences, and rediscover pleasure & closeness in their relationships. Hear why it’s completely normal for partners to have a difference in desire after having kids, which partner to focus more heavily on as a couples therapist, why the pursuer-withdrawer dynamic often flip-flops in the bedroom, the perks of sensate focus, and the homework to give your clients as it relates to sex. To learn more about Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy and her book, Parents in Love: A Guide to Great Sex After Kids, visit: RebeccaEudy.com RebeccaEudy.com/Parents-in-Love  
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Oct 13, 2025 • 35min

263: Communication in Couples Therapy with Shane Birkel

This episode is brought to you by Alma. Visit https://helloalma.com/dg/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=paid&utm_campaign=privatepractice to learn more Get the Couples Therapy 101 course: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/ Join the Couples Therapist Inner Circle: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/inner-circle-new Join The Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/295562197518469/ In this solo episode, Shane talks communication in couples therapy. Hear how to help your clients get back to basics with communication, the correct ways to be a speaker and listener, why communication often breaks down for couples, why we naturally get defensive, and the importance of getting consent from your partner.  
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Oct 7, 2025 • 51min

262: Helping Couples during Their Transition to Parenthood with Kelly Bourque

This episode is brought to you by Alma. Visit https://helloalma.com/dg/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=paid&utm_campaign=privatepractice to learn more Get the Couples Therapy 101 course: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/ Join the Couples Therapist Inner Circle: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/inner-circle-new Join The Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/295562197518469/ In this episode, Shane talks with Kelly Bourque about helping couples during their transition to parenthood. Kelly is an Emotionally Focused Therapy Supervisor (EFT) & Relational Health Advocate. Hear what you should talk about with couples before they have a baby, the need for pre-baby counseling, what happens when couples put their entire focus on the baby, how to help couples navigate the immense stress of having a baby, and the importance of parents being a team. To learn more about Kelly Bourque, visit: RedTherapyGroup.com
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Sep 29, 2025 • 49min

261: Healing Our Core Issues (HOCI) in Couples Therapy with Shane Birkel

This episode is brought to you by Alma. Visit https://helloalma.com/dg/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=paid&utm_campaign=privatepractice to learn more Get the Couples Therapy 101 course: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/ Join the Couples Therapist Inner Circle: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/inner-circle-new Join The Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/295562197518469/ In this solo episode, Shane talks Healing Our Core Issues (HOCI) in couples therapy. Hear what Shane learned from the training he went to led by Jan Bergstrom & Dr. Rick Butts, why the HOCI model is helpful, the 6 core birthrights every human being has, how to start working with a new couple, and why it’s healthy to be concerned you messed up as a parent.
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Sep 25, 2025 • 49min

260: Wise Effort with Dr. Diana Hill

This episode is brought to you by Alma. Visit https://helloalma.com/dg/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=paid&utm_campaign=privatepractice to learn more Get the Couples Therapy 101 course: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/ Join the Couples Therapist Inner Circle: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/inner-circle-new Join The Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/295562197518469/ In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. Diana Hill about Wise Effort. Diana is a clinical psychologist, international trainer, and sought-out speaker on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and compassion. Hear how to practice Wise Effort, how to help your clients create a stronger connection with their partner, the most common types of regret, why people lose connection with the things they want, and why you should find a tree. To learn more about Dr. Diana Hill, her book Wise Effort: How to Focus Your Genius Energy on What Matters Most, and her programs, visit: WiseEffort.com  
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Sep 16, 2025 • 42min

259: Infidelity with Dr. Ellyn Bader

Dr. Ellyn Bader, author and co-founder of The Couples Institute, shares her pioneering journey in couples therapy and the significance of her Developmental Model. She reveals the developmental stages of relationships, emphasizing the importance of autonomy for healthy connections. Delving into infidelity, Bader breaks down common triggers, the stages of therapeutic work, and effective strategies for rebuilding trust. Her insights offer a roadmap for navigating the complexities of relationships and overcoming challenges together.
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Sep 8, 2025 • 35min

258: Working with Men in Couples Therapy with Shane Birkel

This episode is brought to you by Alma. Visit HelloAlma.com/ATPP to learn more Get the Couples Therapy 101 course: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/ Join the Couples Therapist Inner Circle: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/inner-circle-new Join The Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/295562197518469/ In this solo episode, Shane talks working with men in couples therapy. Hear the perks of 1-day intensives, the common differences between men & women when it comes to couples therapy, how to help men truly listen in their relationship, how to identify moments to slow down and do some deeper work, and when it’s okay to not say anything as a couples therapist.
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Aug 25, 2025 • 48min

257: Emotional Repair with Andrea Dindinger

Andrea Dindinger, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 20 years of experience, shares her insights on emotional repair in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of accountability in healing everyday hurts and the role of curiosity in soothing a dysregulated partner. Andrea introduces a three-step approach for effective emotional repair and discusses the complexities of rebuilding trust after major betrayals like infidelity. Her focus on emotional skills and the need for ongoing dialogue provides couples with practical tools for stronger connections.
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Aug 19, 2025 • 54min

256: Brain Science & Attachment with Dr. Dan Siegel

In this enlightening discussion, Dr. Dan Siegel, a Clinical Professor of Psychiatry and author on mindfulness and neurobiology, explores the crucial role of brain science in relationships. He delves into how attachment styles shaped in childhood influence adult dynamics. Siegel highlights the power of empathy and emotional communication in therapy, alongside practical tools like the Adult Attachment Interview. The conversation also touches on how integrating past experiences fosters hope and healing in therapy, transforming relational challenges into opportunities for growth.
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Aug 11, 2025 • 29min

255: Resentment in Relationships with Shane Birkel

This episode is brought to you by Alma. Visit HelloAlma.com/ATPP to learn more Get the Couples Therapy 101 course: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/ Join the Couples Therapist Inner Circle: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/inner-circle-new Join The Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/295562197518469/ In this solo episode, Shane talks resentment in relationships. Hear how to help couples let go of resentment, how to make healthy decisions based on compassion for your partner, what couples should do after they get past the honeymoon period, how to grieve a sacrifice you’ve made in your relationship, and how to help clients come up with compromises.

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