The Secure Love Podcast with Julie Menanno The Shame That Blocks Connection
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Sep 24, 2024 
Drew, who bravely confronts childhood shame linked to a painful baseball game memory, shares his anxiety about work and relationships. With guidance from Julie, he learns the power of vulnerability in fostering connection. They explore emotional burdens, the intricacies of avoidance in relationships, and the journey toward self-acceptance. As Drew articulates his feelings, the couple makes progress from isolation to a deeper connection, highlighting the importance of emotional safety and open communication.
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Safe Vulnerability Strengthens Bonds
- Vulnerability practiced safely reduces fights and creates faster repair in relationships.
- Julie notes repeated safe vulnerability builds stronger, more consistent connection between partners.
Birthday Party Repair Worked
- Melissa and Drew set a goal to prioritize family moments at their son's party and avoid pleasing everyone else.
- They revisited a tense end-of-day moment and repaired it within 24 hours instead of letting it fester.
Both Partners Have Needs
- Anxious and avoidant partners both have emotional needs but show them differently.
- The avoidant often underreports needs while the anxious expresses them loudly, leaving both unmet.