Rena Malik, MD Podcast: Optimizing Health, Sex & Relationships with Science Backed Tips from Leading Experts Sex therapist Reveals the Uncomfortable Reason Your Sex Life Sucks ft. Ian Kerner
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Jun 20, 2025 Ian Kerner, a nationally recognized sex therapist and author, joins Dr. Rena Malik to dive into the complexities of sexual fulfillment. They discuss the pivotal role of communication, how to navigate sexual scripts, and the balance of novelty and familiarity in long-term partnerships. Kerner offers practical tips for reigniting desire, overcoming sexual shame, and introducing new ideas like non-monogamy. The conversation emphasizes the importance of intentionality and understanding your own sexual history to enhance intimacy and keep the spark alive.
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Essentials of Good Sex
- Good sex arises from mutual absorption and shutting off conscious thought.
- A balance of novelty and familiarity enhances intimacy like knowing how to tango with your partner.
Need for Open Sex Talk
- Most people grow up in sex-avoidant or sex-negative homes, arriving at sex uneducated.
- Talking openly about preferences and sexual experiences is essential to improving your sex life.
Overcoming Sexual Conversation Fears
- Adopt a sex-positive attitude and communicate your sexual needs despite discomfort.
- Approach sex conversations with empathy, understanding underlying emotions like fear or neglect.
