The Psychology of Depression and Anxiety - Dr. Scott Eilers The Lies Your Mind Tells You About Shame And Failure
Jan 27, 2025
Dive into the tangled web of memory as two siblings recall a fishing accident differently, highlighting how our minds curate past experiences. Explore a teenage sleepover filled with shame that reshapes self-perception. Discover how negativity bias skews our view of achievements versus failures. The discussion reveals the importance of balancing strengths and weaknesses to develop a healthier self-concept. Reflect on the tendency to amplify personal shortcomings while downplaying others' faults, urging a more realistic outlook on life.
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Childhood Fishing Accident Memory
- Scott describes a childhood fishing accident where his sister hooked him in the forehead.
- He has no memory of the event, but his sister and parents remember it clearly, illustrating memory's selectivity.
Diverging Memories of Friendship
- Scott recalls being drunk and out of sorts at a friend's house despite his friend's perception of the event.
- Later, his friend does not remember Scott's state but shares his own shameful behavior, showing divergent memory perspectives.
Brain's Negativity Bias on Memories
- Our brains thread memories linked by negative emotions like shame into a pattern suggesting we are worthless.
- Positive memories are scattered, making negative self-narratives dominant and unrealistic.
