The Baggage Reclaim Sessions Ep. 284: Shifting Our Understanding of Attachment
Dec 13, 2024
Elfreda Manahan-Vaughn, an integrative coach specializing in adult attachment, joins the discussion to reshape how we view attachment theory. They explore how early family dynamics shape relationships and the importance of self-reflection. Elfreda emphasizes understanding emotional patterns and highlights the adaptability of attachment styles. With practical strategies for achieving earned security, she inspires listeners to foster healthier connections and evolve beyond their past experiences, promoting personal growth in romantic relationships.
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Elfreda's Journey to Attachment Work
- Elfreda Manahan-Vaughn studied attachment in college, intrigued by family dynamics due to her dysfunctional childhood.
- She revisited attachment theory during her coaching career, finding resonance with Patricia Crittenden's work.
Natalie's Struggle with Attachment Narratives
- Natalie Liu found the popular attachment narrative confusing and didn't see herself clearly within its categories.
- This led her to seek a more nuanced understanding, eventually discovering Elfreda's work.
Clarifying Attachment Theory
- Mainstream attachment theory often conflates developmental and personality psychology perspectives.
- Crittenden's model simplifies this with avoidant, balanced (secure), and coercive (anxious) patterns and addresses unresolved trauma.
