Unhooked: Breaking Porn Addiction Podcast The Recovery Mindset: How to Stop Needing Porn with Jake Kastleman, Host of the No More Desire Podcast
Nov 24, 2025
Jake Kastleman, a coach and founder of No More Desire, explores the distinction between sobriety and a fulfilling recovery lifestyle. He introduces his four pillars of healing—emotional, neurological, biological, and relational. Jake discusses overcoming perfectionism and social anxiety, highlighting the importance of emotional regulation in breaking free from porn. The duo also emphasizes earning dopamine through meaningful activities and tolerating discomfort for personal growth. Join them as they uncover the power of vulnerability and self-awareness in recovery.
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Porn As An Emotional Attachment
- Porn desire often reflects unmet emotional needs, not a purely sexual problem.
- Jake says reducing those unmet needs can remove the felt necessity for porn.
Learn To Regulate Painful Emotions
- Regulate emotion by increasing self-awareness, mindfulness, and inner dialogue to reduce cravings.
- Work through anger, shame, and fear with self-compassion rather than suppressing them.
Tech Spikes Create Dopamine Debt
- Constant high-intensity tech pleasures overload dopamine and backload pain, undermining focus and mood.
- Jake contrasts 'base pleasures' with 'noble pleasures' that require effort and restore balance.
