Dr. Marisa Franco, a New York Times bestselling author and expert on friendship, sheds light on the intricacies of human connections. She emphasizes that friendships require effort and discusses their profound impact on our well-being. Listeners will learn how to navigate adult friendships, even amidst disagreements, and the surprising physical health benefits of social ties. Dr. Franco also explores the vital roles self-love and vulnerability play in building deeper relationships, challenging societal norms surrounding male friendship and affection.
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Shifting Emphasis on Love
Modern Western culture overemphasizes romantic love and minimizes platonic love.
This shift started in the 19th century due to changing views on homophobia, impacting how we express affection for friends.
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Unsent Letter
Dr. Franco hesitated to send a deeply affectionate letter to her best friend.
She felt shame due to societal norms around expressing love to friends.
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Initiative in Friendships
Take initiative in friendships.
Assume friendships don't just happen organically and put in effort like pursuing romantic relationships.
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Marisa G. Franco
In 'Platonic', Dr. Marisa G. Franco explores the latest findings on the bonds between people, debunking myths such as the idea that friendships happen organically. She emphasizes the importance of understanding one's attachment style—secure, anxious, or avoidant—to improve and deepen friendships. The book provides a practical and research-based blueprint for forging strong, lasting connections and becoming happier and more fulfilled selves.
What Happened to You?
Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
Bruce D. Perry
Oprah Winfrey
Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Bruce Perry explore how traumatic experiences in early life shape behavior and identity. The book emphasizes the importance of understanding and addressing past traumas to clear a path for future healing and resilience. Winfrey shares stories from her own past, while Dr. Perry provides scientific and emotional insights, highlighting the need to ask 'What happened to you?' rather than 'What’s wrong with you?' to foster a deeper understanding of human behavior and promote healing[1][3][5].
This week is a fascinating show about FRIENDSHIP. This one is so so IMPORTANT.
I’ll be HONEST with you…one of the people this week’s show may HELP the most is me!
As I’ve mentioned many times before, although I put myself out there all the time, deep inside, I’m still very much an INTROVERT. I’ve always felt I could do better in smoothing out the AWKWARD MOMENTS, and I feel sometimes when connecting with people.
I know a lot of you are the same way.
That’s why I’m fascinated by DR. MARISA FRANCO, who has spent years studying FRIENDSHIP in incredible detail.
There’s so much good stuff to unpack this week…
FRIENDSHIPS TAKE WORK, and even people who make friends easily can make regrettable mistakes. No matter who you are, listen to what Dr. Franco has to say about CHARACTERISTICS of what makes a great friendship, then ask yourself how many of those boxes you check.
If you don’t check enough of them, you may find people you thought were your friends starting to GHOST YOU, which Dr. Franco also gets into.
We’re also going to talk about the PHYSICAL NEED FOR FRIENDS as well. You may not realize it, but friendship has a lot more benefits than simply improving your EMOTIONAL health. This is part of Dr. Franco’s larger overall look at the science of friendships and how they affect your work, sense of self, and many other parts of who you are.
Want to know how to make friends as an ADULT?
How to be friends with people you DISAGREE with?
Or how SELF-LOVE affects friendships?
And one of my favorite parts of this week’s show…
How can you deal with “value-based” friends versus adding authentic friendships to your life?
My FRIENDLY ADVICE to you this week is to pay close attention to Dr. Franco’s wisdom on a subject that we sometimes take for granted.
And let me leave you with this…
PROVERBS 27 says, in part, “Do not forsake your friend and the friend of your father, and do not go to your brother's house when disaster strikes you-- better a neighbor nearby than a brother far away.”
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