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On love
Book • 2016
In 'On Love,' Stendhal provides a detailed analysis of the complexities of romantic love.
He categorizes love into four main types: physical love, love as a social game, vanity love, and passion love, with a particular focus on the latter.
Stendhal outlines seven progressive stages of love, from admiration to 'crystallization,' a process where the lover attributes perfection to the beloved by layering observed traits with positive and often exaggerated qualities.
This work is deeply personal, influenced by Stendhal's own experiences of unrequited love, and offers a blend of historical examples, personal anecdotes, and psychological insights into the nature of love.
He categorizes love into four main types: physical love, love as a social game, vanity love, and passion love, with a particular focus on the latter.
Stendhal outlines seven progressive stages of love, from admiration to 'crystallization,' a process where the lover attributes perfection to the beloved by layering observed traits with positive and often exaggerated qualities.
This work is deeply personal, influenced by Stendhal's own experiences of unrequited love, and offers a blend of historical examples, personal anecdotes, and psychological insights into the nature of love.
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Mentioned in 6 episodes
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as his first book that helped him understand sensations around love.


Alain de Botton

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as a collection of personal essays reflecting on the experience of loving someone who may not reciprocate.


David Peña-Guzmán

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Limerence
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as a source for his understanding of the crystallization process in falling in love.


Robert Greene

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The Biggest Mistake People Make When Choosing a Partner | Robert Greene
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as a book about love.


Sarma Melngailis

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's earlier novel about the arc of a relationship, referenced in discussion of The Course of Love.


Debbie Millman


Alain de Botton

Alain de Botton
Wspomniany przez Miłosza Wiatrowskiego-Bujacza przywołując myśli Zygmunta Baumana o paradoksie wyboru i miłości w nowoczesności.

Razem, a jednak osobno. Co to będzie z randkowaniem
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when comparing falling in love to a crystallization method, referencing a book on love.


Robert Greene

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as Pieper's book influenced by Lewis and offering a Thomist account of love that influenced Ratzinger.

Paul Shakeshaft

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referencing Alain de Botton's discussion contrasting tragedy and tabloid framing to illustrate moralistic reading.


John Ortberg

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On Love Summary | Alain de Botton



