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Anabell Ingleton | Feminine Leadership Coach helping women undo masculine patterns & master their femininity.
Hosted by Anabell Ingleton, a multiple 6-figure earning Coach, she shares new episodes every Wednesday on all things personal transformation, growth and evolving into and connecting to your Highest Self. Anabell shares concepts, tips and actual tools for you to use in your life today to help you remove the blocks that are keeping you fully blooming and creating the dream life you deserve. Anabell has solo episodes as well as other amazing coaches, entrepreneurs and her past clients themselves sharing what they do to fully bloom and change their lives. Anabell has served hundreds of clients in her 1:1 coaching practice where she helped men and women heal from the effects of stressful past experiences and used those thousands of hours of deep knowledge to create Segura, a group coaching program where she helps women grow their confidence and self-love so they can go from "I can't do that, I'm not "insert positive attribute here"..... to a confident, happy and secure woman who's in charge of her schedule, decisions, relationships and future.
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Oct 17, 2025 • 6min
You Can't "Heal" Shame...You Must Transform What Created It
In today’s episode, I challenge one of the most common misconceptions in personal development: the idea that you can heal shame.I explain why emotions like shame, guilt, and fear aren’t wounds that need healing — they’re messages from your subconscious, designed to protect you.But when those emotional patterns get stuck, they stop protecting you and start limiting you.🔍 In This Episode, You’ll LearnWhy you can’t heal emotions — and what they’re actually trying to tell youThe difference between feeling shame momentarily and living in itHow shame serves as a biological “stop signal” designed to keep you safeWhat happens when shame becomes a learned emotional habitThe four subconscious roots of emotion: memory, meaning, perception, and beliefHow transforming your subconscious identity releases stuck emotions automatically🧠 Key Insight“You don’t heal shame. You transform the part of you that believed it needed to feel it.”Click here for the full show notes. Click here to book a consult. Click here to book a session.Click here to learn about how my facilitation process works.What if men aren’t rejecting you — they’re reflecting you? Learn how your self-perception quietly teaches men how to treat you with The Mirror Effect Guide. Learn how your inner energy creates love, support, and devotion from men. Download the free guide HERE. Your self-image sets the limit on what you attract and create. And when you change the image within, everything reflects differently. Download The Inner Self-Image Guide and discover how your past experiences quietly built your identity and how to transform those patterns so love, success, and confidence become your automatic new normal. Download The Self-Image Guide for free. CONNECT WITH ME: Subscribe to my Youtube channel HERE. Connect with me on Instagram HERE. Follow me on Tiktok HERE.Learn more about me and my coaching. Visit HERE.

Oct 9, 2025 • 27min
You Don't Need A Man To Regulating Your Nervous System
You don’t need a man to regulate your nervous system — you need to reprogram the beliefs that make love feel unsafe.In this episode, I reveal why emotional safety isn’t something you get from a partner but something your subconscious creates. You’ll learn how your love blueprint shapes attraction, why calm men can feel “boring,” and how to retrain your mind so healthy love finally feels naturalWhat if men aren’t rejecting you — they’re reflecting you? Learn how your self-perception quietly teaches men how to treat you with The Mirror Effect Guide. Learn how your inner energy creates love, support, and devotion from men. Download the free guide HERE. Your self-image sets the limit on what you attract and create. And when you change the image within, everything reflects differently. Download The Inner Self-Image Guide and discover how your past experiences quietly built your identity and how to transform those patterns so love, success, and confidence become your automatic new normal. Download The Self-Image Guide for free. CONNECT WITH ME: Subscribe to my Youtube channel HERE. Connect with me on Instagram HERE. Follow me on Tiktok HERE.Learn more about me and my coaching. Visit HERE.

Oct 2, 2025 • 34min
How to Stop Letting Past Relationships Sabotage Your Current Love
Have you ever felt like the pain of your past relationships is sneaking into your present one—even when you know you’ve found something good? In this episode, I share two powerful client transformation stories that reveal how subconscious work can dissolve old beliefs and free you to fully experience love in the present.Using Core Transformation and the Self-Concept Model, we explore how unresolved fears, betrayals, or unhealthy behavior patterns can sabotage even the healthiest relationships—and how to rewire your subconscious so your heart is open, secure, and ready to receive lasting love.Click here for the full show notes. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:How subconscious fears of loss can quietly sabotage a secure and loving relationship—and what to do about it.Why past infidelity—even in a relationship that’s long over—can create mistrust and insecurity in your current partnership.How Core Transformation and the Self-Concept Model work together to dissolve old programming and create a new, empowered self-concept.What it really takes to bring your full self—calm, open, and confident—into love without the past running the show.Client Stories You’ll Hear:A woman who carried an unconscious fear of losing her partner until we reprogrammed her mind to feel safe and secure.A client whose past experience with infidelity was clouding her ability to trust in her now-healthy relationship, and how she completely released that pain.If you’ve ever wondered how to stop letting your past dictate your present—and finally feel the love you deserve—this episode will show you what’s possible.What if men aren’t rejecting you — they’re reflecting you? Learn how your self-perception quietly teaches men how to treat you with The Mirror Effect Guide. Learn how your inner energy creates love, support, and devotion from men. Download the free guide HERE. Your self-image sets the limit on what you attract and create. And when you change the image within, everything reflects differently. Download The Inner Self-Image Guide and discover how your past experiences quietly built your identity and how to transform those patterns so love, success, and confidence become your automatic new normal. Download The Self-Image Guide for free. CONNECT WITH ME: Subscribe to my Youtube channel HERE. Connect with me on Instagram HERE. Follow me on Tiktok HERE.Learn more about me and my coaching. Visit HERE.

Sep 4, 2025 • 29min
You Are Emotionally Available to Everything You Want
In this week’s episode, I break down what it really means to be emotionally available — not just in love, but in every area of life: career, wealth, health, and self-expression. If you’ve ever felt like you’re pressing the gas and the brake at the same time — desperately wanting something, yet somehow sabotaging it — this episode explains why.I introduce the IDA Formula (I Am, I Can, I Deserve) as the three subconscious belief systems you must align to open yourself up to love, success, money, and joy. I share personal stories of living in survival mode, repeating painful cycles, and the breakthrough that came from working directly with my subconscious.You’ll learn:Why conscious desire isn’t enough if your subconscious doesn’t feel safe.The role of identity, capability, and deservability in creating lasting results.How trauma, old programming, and past failures block you from receiving what’s meant for you.Practical ways to reprogram your subconscious so you can finally have and keep the results you want.Whether you want a thriving relationship, financial growth, or confidence in your body, this conversation will show you how to remove the invisible blocks and become fully emotionally available to the life you deserve.Resources & LinksClick here for the show notes to this episode.📥 Download the free Subconscious Success Guide to explore modalities that rewire your subconscious for love, wealth, and confidence.💻 Work with Anabell 1:1 – book a PSYCH-K®️ session or package to reprogram limiting beliefs and unlock your next level.What if men aren’t rejecting you — they’re reflecting you? Learn how your self-perception quietly teaches men how to treat you with The Mirror Effect Guide. Learn how your inner energy creates love, support, and devotion from men. Download the free guide HERE. Your self-image sets the limit on what you attract and create. And when you change the image within, everything reflects differently. Download The Inner Self-Image Guide and discover how your past experiences quietly built your identity and how to transform those patterns so love, success, and confidence become your automatic new normal. Download The Self-Image Guide for free. CONNECT WITH ME: Subscribe to my Youtube channel HERE. Connect with me on Instagram HERE. Follow me on Tiktok HERE.Learn more about me and my coaching. Visit HERE.

Aug 28, 2025 • 35min
Men Are Mirrors, Part 2: Why Men Reflect Who You’re Being (Not What You’re Doing)
Welcome to Part 2 of our Men Are Mirrors series! Last week, we explored the truth behind why men mirror you—and today, we’re taking it deeper.In this episode, you’ll learn:✅ Why the subconscious is like a loyal assistant taking your thoughts as instructions.✅ How behavior confirms belief (and creates a vicious loop that keeps you stuck).✅ 4 real-life examples of how reflection shows up in dating and relationships.✅ Why understanding this is the key to making love feel easy and natural.Click here for the show notesClick here to book a PSYCH-K®️ session with me. Click here to get on the waitlist for PSYCH-K®️ What if men aren’t rejecting you — they’re reflecting you? Learn how your self-perception quietly teaches men how to treat you with The Mirror Effect Guide. Learn how your inner energy creates love, support, and devotion from men. Download the free guide HERE. Your self-image sets the limit on what you attract and create. And when you change the image within, everything reflects differently. Download The Inner Self-Image Guide and discover how your past experiences quietly built your identity and how to transform those patterns so love, success, and confidence become your automatic new normal. Download The Self-Image Guide for free. CONNECT WITH ME: Subscribe to my Youtube channel HERE. Connect with me on Instagram HERE. Follow me on Tiktok HERE.Learn more about me and my coaching. Visit HERE.

Aug 21, 2025 • 51min
Men Are Your Mirrors: Part 1 - Why Choosing Yourself Changes Your Reality/Reflection
He’s not withholding. He’s mirroring.⠀Your nervous system is speaking louder than your words ever could.⠀When you feel safe, loved, and trusting — he feels it too.⠀When you’re guarded, controlling, or waiting for proof — his energy mirrors that.⠀It’s not about chasing, convincing, or performing.⠀It’s about who you are being.In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on one of the biggest secrets in dating and relationships: men are mirrors. They reflect back the energy, beliefs, and emotions you carry inside.Here’s what we’ll dive into:Why men pull away when you focus on them instead of yourselfThe difference between the problem-oriented structure (fear) vs. the creation structure (love)How subconscious programming makes you act in ways that sabotage loveThe shift that makes men lean in, pursue, and want to be part of your worldIf you’ve ever felt like dating is a frustrating cycle—calm around the men you don’t like, anxious around the ones you do—this episode will change everything.✨ Listen now and discover how choosing yourself makes men choose you.Click here for the full show notes. What if men aren’t rejecting you — they’re reflecting you? Learn how your self-perception quietly teaches men how to treat you with The Mirror Effect Guide. Learn how your inner energy creates love, support, and devotion from men. Download the free guide HERE. Your self-image sets the limit on what you attract and create. And when you change the image within, everything reflects differently. Download The Inner Self-Image Guide and discover how your past experiences quietly built your identity and how to transform those patterns so love, success, and confidence become your automatic new normal. Download The Self-Image Guide for free. CONNECT WITH ME: Subscribe to my Youtube channel HERE. Connect with me on Instagram HERE. Follow me on Tiktok HERE.Learn more about me and my coaching. Visit HERE.

Aug 14, 2025 • 55min
The Relationship Sabotage Loop (and how to break it)
Click here for the full show notes Click here to download the pdf mentioned in the episodeIf you’ve ever felt like the harder you try with a man, the further he seems to pull away—you’re not imagining it. In this episode, I’m breaking down The Sabotage Loop: the unconscious pattern that keeps high-achieving women chasing men instead of choosing them.You’ll hear why chasing creates distance, how it keeps you stuck in what I call Problem Structure, and the exact mindset shift to move into Creation Structure—where you become magnetic to emotionally available men who actually want to invest in you.What You’ll Learn:The real reason chasing creates emotional distance (and it’s not about playing games).The hidden ways high-functioning women “chase” without realizing it.How Problem Structure keeps you looping in the same unsatisfying patterns.What Creation Structure is and why it’s the key to creating the relationship you truly want.The simple shift that stops the loop and puts you back in your power as the chooser.What if men aren’t rejecting you — they’re reflecting you? Learn how your self-perception quietly teaches men how to treat you with The Mirror Effect Guide. Learn how your inner energy creates love, support, and devotion from men. Download the free guide HERE. Your self-image sets the limit on what you attract and create. And when you change the image within, everything reflects differently. Download The Inner Self-Image Guide and discover how your past experiences quietly built your identity and how to transform those patterns so love, success, and confidence become your automatic new normal. Download The Self-Image Guide for free. CONNECT WITH ME: Subscribe to my Youtube channel HERE. Connect with me on Instagram HERE. Follow me on Tiktok HERE.Learn more about me and my coaching. Visit HERE.

Aug 7, 2025 • 23min
The 5 Sexy Spaces That Make Any Man Think About You All Day
Click here for the full show notes. Ever wonder why some women stay on a man’s mind long after the date is over… while others get ghosted?In this episode, I’ll show you why being too available, too open, and too fast actually kills a man’s desire — and what to do instead.You’ll learn the psychology behind male emotional investment and how to create 5 “Sexy Spaces” that spark curiosity, build anticipation, and keep you on his mind all day long.This isn’t about playing games or manipulation.It’s about embodying feminine energy that invites pursuit — without ever chasing.✨ What You’ll Learn:Why “good girl” energy makes men pull awayThe 5 Sexy Spaces that magnetize emotionally available menHow space builds connection (and makes him think about you nonstop)What to do instead of over-explaining, over-giving, or rushing intimacyHow to stay calm, confident, and rooted in your value while dating🔥 If you’re ready to…Be unforgettable after the first dateInspire a man to pursue, plan, and prioritize youLearn how to create irresistible emotional tension…this episode is for you.What if men aren’t rejecting you — they’re reflecting you? Learn how your self-perception quietly teaches men how to treat you with The Mirror Effect Guide. Learn how your inner energy creates love, support, and devotion from men. Download the free guide HERE. Your self-image sets the limit on what you attract and create. And when you change the image within, everything reflects differently. Download The Inner Self-Image Guide and discover how your past experiences quietly built your identity and how to transform those patterns so love, success, and confidence become your automatic new normal. Download The Self-Image Guide for free. CONNECT WITH ME: Subscribe to my Youtube channel HERE. Connect with me on Instagram HERE. Follow me on Tiktok HERE.Learn more about me and my coaching. Visit HERE.

Jul 31, 2025 • 26min
The Dating Stage That Makes a Good Man Want to Commit (Most Women Skip It)
If you’ve ever felt like things were going so good—and then he pulled away, faded, or never stepped up… this episode will explain why.Most women unknowingly skip the emotional stage that makes a man feel bonded, safe, and eager to commit.In this episode, I’ll break down the exact moment the shift happens in his brain—and how to guide a good man into deeper connection without chasing, overgiving, or playing games.🎯 You’ll learn:Why attraction isn’t enough to inspire commitmentThe emotional trigger that activates his desire to choose youThe dating mistake high-functioning women often makeAnd how to finally feel calm, chosen, and secure in loveClick here for the full show notes and ALL the links I mentioned in the episode.Ready to stop trying harder and start being chosen?What if men aren’t rejecting you — they’re reflecting you? Learn how your self-perception quietly teaches men how to treat you with The Mirror Effect Guide. Learn how your inner energy creates love, support, and devotion from men. Download the free guide HERE. Your self-image sets the limit on what you attract and create. And when you change the image within, everything reflects differently. Download The Inner Self-Image Guide and discover how your past experiences quietly built your identity and how to transform those patterns so love, success, and confidence become your automatic new normal. Download The Self-Image Guide for free. CONNECT WITH ME: Subscribe to my Youtube channel HERE. Connect with me on Instagram HERE. Follow me on Tiktok HERE.Learn more about me and my coaching. Visit HERE.

Jul 23, 2025 • 17min
How To Stay Calm & Confident Between Dates So He Pursues You More
What do you do after a great date… and then silence?If you find yourself spiraling, checking your phone, and obsessing over whether he’ll text—you’re not alone. But this anxious pattern is doing more than stressing you out. It’s teaching your subconscious that love is unsafe… and pushing good men away in the process.In this episode, I’m breaking down:• Why your nervous system goes into survival mode after the date• How to stop performing and start magnetizing• The mirror effect: how men reflect the energy you’re anchored in• What to focus on so you feel secure, feminine, and desired—even in the silence• How to rewire your subconscious to attract instead of chaseThis is the energetic reframe that every high-functioning, anxious woman needs if she’s ready to stop overthinking and start letting love come to her.💗 If you want to go deeper into this work, The Open Heart Blueprint will show you exactly how to reprogram your nervous system and become the woman men pursue, prioritize, and protect.🎧 Tune in and let’s shift your love story—starting from withinClick here for the full show notes. What if men aren’t rejecting you — they’re reflecting you? Learn how your self-perception quietly teaches men how to treat you with The Mirror Effect Guide. Learn how your inner energy creates love, support, and devotion from men. Download the free guide HERE. Your self-image sets the limit on what you attract and create. And when you change the image within, everything reflects differently. Download The Inner Self-Image Guide and discover how your past experiences quietly built your identity and how to transform those patterns so love, success, and confidence become your automatic new normal. Download The Self-Image Guide for free. CONNECT WITH ME: Subscribe to my Youtube channel HERE. Connect with me on Instagram HERE. Follow me on Tiktok HERE.Learn more about me and my coaching. Visit HERE.


