

Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage
EJ and Tarah Kerwin
How can couples create a strong and lasting foundation for their relationship? -----The Relationship Renovation podcast, hosted by therapists E.J. and Tarah Kerwin, is your go-to resource for creating stable, loving, and secure relationships. As a married couple with a blended family, they offer a unique perspective on the challenges that couples face in today's world. Each week, they share their own experiences and clinical insight to help couples overcome obstacles and build a strong foundation for their relationship. With practical advice and a focus on actionable steps, the Relationship Renovation podcast is the perfect resource for anyone looking to improve their relationship.Linktree
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Dec 1, 2023 • 32min
149 - The Silent Partner: Encouraging Expression in Love
How can couples improve emotional intimacy when one partner is less expressive?What are effective communication strategies for less expressive individuals in relationships?Why is emotional safety crucial for maintaining a strong connection in a marriage?In this episode, EJ and Tarah delve into the intricacies of emotional safety and expression within intimate relationships. Through a heartwarming excerpt from a couple's therapy session, they explore the journey of a less emotionally expressive male partner who steps into vulnerability and the positive ripple effect it creates in his relationship. Our hosts unpack trust and communication's crucial role in fostering secure attachments and the common pitfall of misinterpreted needs that often steer couples toward separation. With a focus on creating an inclusive space for both partners to be heard and understood, EJ and Tarah offer practical advice and effective communication strategies, including using "I statements" to invite connection rather than provoke defensiveness. This episode is a must-listen for anyone yearning to deepen their relational bond and transform their partnership through emotional attunement.Learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Nov 24, 2023 • 27min
148 - Repetitive Arguments: Unveiling Emotional Triggers and Personal Growth Opportunities
How can repetitive arguments with my partner be transformed into opportunities for growth in our relationship?What are some practical tools and strategies for de-escalating and resolving conflicts in a relationship?How can establishing and respecting boundaries help improve communication and trust in a relationship?How can understanding and addressing attachment styles (e.g., anxious and avoidant) contribute to a more secure and satisfying relationship?In this episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast, hosts EJ and Tarah address the common challenge of repetitive arguments that escalate between partners. They offer practical tools to navigate these difficult moments and emphasize the opportunity for personal growth within the relationship. Listeners will gain insights into setting and respecting boundaries, using a code word to address emotions, and understanding the dynamics of different attachment styles. Whether you're seeking advice on reconnecting after a breakup or seeking ways to strengthen your relationship, this episode provides valuable guidance for couples and individuals alike. Tune in to better understand yourself and your partner, and learn how to build a secure and loving connection. To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Nov 17, 2023 • 29min
147 - Curiosity vs Reactivity: How to Foster Emotional Safety and Strengthen Your Relationship
1. How can curiosity instead of reactivity improve my relationship?2. What are effective ways to handle difficult moments with my partner?3. How can I create emotional safety and attachment with my partner?4. What are some practical strategies for building a stronger and more loving relationship?In this episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts EJ and Tarah delve into the topic of curiosity versus reactivity in relationships. They explore how difficult moments can often lead to more conflict and how approaching those moments with curiosity instead of reactivity can strengthen the emotional bond between partners. They share personal anecdotes and practical tips for embracing curiosity, understanding each other's instinctive responses, and finding ways to support and regulate each other's emotions. Listeners will learn how to navigate complex emotional situations, foster emotional safety, and create long-lasting, fulfilling relationships.To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Nov 10, 2023 • 23min
146 - Transforming Thought Patterns: Fostering Deeper Connection with Your Partner
What is internal dialogue, and how does it impact our relationships?How does negative internal dialogue affect emotional safety and connection with our partner?How can we become aware of and address negative self-launching thoughts to improve our relationship?In this compelling episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, E.J. and Tarah Kerwin delve into the fascinating topic of internal dialogue and its profound impact on our relationships. They explore how our self-launching thoughts often pull us away from our partners, leading to feelings of disconnection, confusion, and perceived threats. By sharing personal experiences and insights, E.J. and Tara reveal how negative internal dialogue can erode emotional safety and hinder intimacy in a relationship, offering valuable guidance on identifying and addressing these destructive thought patterns. Tune in to discover how our automatic thoughts and narratives influence our interactions with partners and learn practical steps to become more aware of our internal dialogue. E.J. and Tarah's candid discussion highlights the power of communication and self-reflection in navigating challenging moments with our partners, ultimately fostering growth, understanding, and deeper emotional connections. Don't miss this episode as it offers invaluable insights and tools to help you transform your relationship and cultivate a stronger, more fulfilling partnership.To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Nov 3, 2023 • 33min
145 - The Path to Emotional Safety: Building Trust and Connection in Your Relationship
Are you wondering how to create emotional safety within your relationship? Are you looking for strategies to cultivate a sense of security and acceptance with your partner? Do you want to understand why emotional safety is vital for a healthy and thriving relationship? In this episode of "Relationship Renovation," hosts EJ and Tarah dive deep into the crucial topic of emotional safety in relationships. They explore its definition, the impact of its absence, and the path to building trust and connection. Tune in to this insightful episode where EJ and Tarah provide expert advice, practical tips, and thought-provoking discussions to help couples enhance their emotional safety and strengthen their bond.To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Oct 27, 2023 • 29min
144 - Kidsplosion: How Having Children Can Impact Your Relationship in Unexpected Ways
In this episode, EJ and Tarah answer three key questions about the impact of having children on a relationship:1. How does becoming parents affect the dynamics of a relationship?2. What are some common challenges couples face when they have children?3. How can couples stay connected and prioritize their relationship while raising a family?In this episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts EJ and Tarah delve into the topic of how having children can impact your relationship. They discuss the common challenges that arise when couples become parents and share their own experiences as a blended family with four children, including twins. Through their unique perspective as relationship experts, they provide valuable insights and strategies for staying connected, maintaining intimacy, and making your relationship a priority, even amidst the chaos of parenting. If you’re a couple navigating the ups and downs of parenthood, this episode is a must-listen.Tune in to gain expert advice and practical tips on navigating the transformative journey of parenthood while keeping your relationship strong and thriving. Don't miss out on the valuable insights that will help you and your partner stay connected, loving, and intimate with one another.To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Oct 20, 2023 • 30min
143 - Hormones and Love: Exploring the Impact of Hormonal Fluctuations on Relationships
Have you or someone you know experienced hormone fluctuations that affected their relationships? How did you navigate through that time?How can partners stay connected and support each other during periods of emotional upheaval caused by hormonal changes?In this thought-provoking episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts EJ and Tarah delve into the challenging topic of hormones and a woman's menstrual cycle and its impact on relationships. Join them as they share personal experiences, offer psychoeducation, and provide valuable tools for couples to navigate hormonal changes. From fertility treatments to perimenopause and menstrual cycles, they explore the emotional toll hormone fluctuations can take, and how it can disrupt even the strongest of relationships. Discover how to maintain emotional safety, improve communication, and reduce reactivity during these tumultuous times. Don't miss this insightful episode that will not only help you understand the dynamics of suffering in relationships but also provide practical guidance for maintaining a strong, loving connection.To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Oct 13, 2023 • 25min
142 - The Marriage Question: Debunking the Myth of Knowing 'The One' Right Away
How does the past affect our ability to commit in relationships?Is it common for couples to have different beliefs about marriage and commitment?How do childhood experiences impact our attachment styles in relationships?What factors contribute to one's readiness for marriage and long-term commitment?On this episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast, hosts EJ and Tarah dive into a listener's email about the struggle to commit deeper in a relationship. They explore the idea of knowing if someone is "the one" and discuss the different perspectives and expectations around marriage. EJ and Tarah share their insights on the impact of childhood experiences and how they can shape our attachment styles in relationships. They also reflect on their own early relationship dynamics and the challenges they faced. Tune in to gain valuable advice on navigating commitment and understanding the complexities of partnership.To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - LoveSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Oct 6, 2023 • 34min
141 - From First Dates to Relationship Revitalization: Insights from Relationship Expert Celeste Moore
Are you struggling with dating in the modern world?Do you feel overwhelmed by the endless options on dating apps?Are you looking to reignite the spark in your current relationship?If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you don't want to miss this episode of Relationship Renovation. In Episode 141, our hosts EJ and Tarah sit down with guest Celeste Moore, a renowned personal image and dating consultant, to explore the challenges of dating, finding authentic connections, and reviving stagnant relationships.Join them as they delve into the secrets of successful dating, from asking open-ended questions to going on activity-based dates that foster connection and ease of conversation. Celeste shares expert advice on boosting confidence through personal image and body language, as well as the importance of authenticity in dating. Whether you're single and navigating the dating world or in a relationship seeking to reignite the passion, this episode is packed with valuable insights and practical tips to take your love life to the next level. Tune in now and get ready for a relationship renovation like no other!Celeste Moore Consulting.The Down and Dirty PodcastTo learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Sep 29, 2023 • 34min
140 - Taking a Closer Look: Boundaries as the Foundation of a Healthy, Intimate Relationship Pt. 2
What role does trust play in having open and honest conversations with your partner?How can individuals improve their ability to express their needs and emotions to their partner?In what ways can couples support each other during difficult times, even when they don't have control over the situation?In this highly anticipated follow-up episode, EJ and Tarah dive deeper into the art of communication within relationships. Drawing from their own experiences, they explore the importance of being open, honest, and assertive when it comes to expressing needs and navigating challenges as a couple. From discussing difficult topics to checking in with one another, they share personal anecdotes that highlight the significance of effective communication in creating stronger, more resilient connections. Join them as they provide valuable insights, practical advice, and relatable stories that will help listeners on their journey to renovating their own relationships.Please note that this episode is part two of a series on communication within relationships. If you haven't listened to episode 138, "Taking a Close Look: Boundaries as the Foundation of a Healthy, Intimate Relationship Pt. 1", we highly recommend checking it out as a valuable precursor to this insightful discussion. So grab your favorite beverage, settle in, and get ready for another episode packed with illuminating conversations, relatable experiences, and actionable takeaways on Relationship Renovation!Relationship Renovation DiscordTo learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands