

Relationship Renovation: Marriage Advice, Intimacy & Couples Communication
EJ and Tarah Kerwin
Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizJoin Our Patreon CommunityStronger relationships start here. The Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosted by licensed therapists and partners Tarah & E.J. Kerwin, gives couples the tools to improve communication, rebuild trust, and create lasting intimacy.With over 20 years of experience for Tarah and 15+ years for E.J., and their proven Relationship Renovation Method, they share practical strategies, real-life stories, and therapist-guided insights to help you break negative cycles and deepen your connection.Each week you’ll learn how to:Practice couples therapy skills at homeStop fighting and start communicatingRebuild trust after conflict or distanceStrengthen both emotional and physical intimacyHear real couples share struggles and breakthroughsWith over 20,000 monthly downloads, Relationship Renovation is trusted worldwide by couples who want advice that is expert, relatable, and actionable.Whether you’re dating, married, or somewhere in between, this podcast is your roadmap to transform conflict into connection.Subscribe today—and start building the relationship you’ve been hoping for.
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Jan 19, 2024 • 24min
156 - Staying Aligned: Strengthening Relationships Through Unified Intentions
How can setting a unifying word for the year benefit your relationship?What can be the impact of having a unified theme for the year on your relationship?How can couples maintain alignment throughout the year and use a unifying word as a tool to support their relationship growth?In this episode of Relationship Renovation, EJ and Tarah explore the concept of setting a unifying word as a theme for the year in a relationship. They reveal the importance of this tool and its potential positive impacts on relationships and discuss practical steps on how couples can use this method to foster growth and alignment throughout the year. They share their personal experiences and offer valuable insights into how this simple yet powerful practice can lead to emotional and intimate connection within a partnership.Tune in to discover the significance of setting a unifying word for your relationship and learn how it can help you and your partner stay aligned throughout the year. Gain valuable tips on turning this concept into a practical growth tool, and explore the potential impact it can have on your personal wellness and relationship development. Don't miss this episode of Relationship Renovation, where you can discover how a unified theme for the year can inspire growth, connection, and resilience in your relationship.Relationship Renovation DiscordTo learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Jan 12, 2024 • 36min
155 - Emotional Triggers and Tough Talks: Mending Bonds
Are you finding it hard to deal with repetitive conflicts in your relationship, no matter how much you try to improve?Do you struggle with intense arguments that last longer than they should, overshadowing the progress you've made?Are you seeking ways to navigate blended family dynamics and set effective boundaries, especially around contentious issues like screen time?In Episode 155, join EJ and Tarah as they delve deep into their own personal challenges and share an intimate look at an intense conflict that arose during a family outing. With raw honesty, they unpack the underlying emotions, psychological patterns, and communication strategies that have helped them rebuild and strengthen their connection. Whether you're in a blended family struggling with screen time boundaries or simply looking to enhance communication with your partner, this episode of Relationship Renovation offers invaluable insights into the non-linear journey of relationship growth and the tools that can help turn conflicts into opportunities for deeper intimacy and understanding.Relationship Renovation DiscordTo learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Jan 5, 2024 • 16min
154 - Relationship Renovation Podcast: Building a Worldwide Community for Loving Relationships
How can couples navigate the complexities of blended families and parenting challenges?What tools and resources are available for individuals seeking to strengthen their relationships in 2024?How can sharing stories and experiences of relationship challenges and growth contribute to building a supportive global community dedicated to relationship wellness?In this episode of Relationship Renovation, EJ and Tarah share the exciting new direction their podcast is taking and the community they are building for individuals dedicated to personal growth and nurturing loving relationships. They address how to feel more emotionally and intimately connected, the tools available through their program, and the challenges they faced as a couple and as parents. They also discuss their journey in developing a method to help others improve their relationships. The episode emphasizes the importance of learning and implementing relationship skills, normalizing the complexities of relationships, and providing real-life examples of overcoming challenges. Listeners will gain insight into how to improve their relationships, build a supportive community, and embark on a journey of personal and relational growth.Relationship Renovation DiscordLearn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Dec 29, 2023 • 30min
153 - The Intimacy Bridge: Crossing Together Through Life's Challenging Transitions
Are you and your partner navigating the treacherous waters of grief and its impact on intimacy?Do you struggle with communicating effectively during major life changes and want to understand how to build emotional safety in your relationship?Looking for real-life examples of couples who've come out stronger after facing significant challenges together?In this episode, our compassionate hosts explore a listener’s poignant struggle with grieving the loss of her mother while managing her husband's feelings of neglect, a scenario that resonates with many. With their signature blend of professional wisdom and practical advice, Tarah and EJ shed light on the intricate relationship between individual grief processes and collective emotional intimacy. They encourage open-hearted understanding and present strategies like emotional triage to ensure both partners feel heard and supported. By tuning in, you'll witness how difficulties can deepen the emotional bond in a partnership and why embracing change is the cornerstone of a robust, empathetic connection. So, gather around as Relationship Renovation offers a blueprint for intimacy refurbishment that's not just transformative, but a testament to the power of love and persistence in the face of adversity.Learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Dec 22, 2023 • 30min
152 - Nurturing Intimacy: The Role of Active Listening in Deepening Emotional Connections
How can active listening change your relationship, and how does this foster a more profound sense of intimacy?How can active listening skills be utilized to navigate challenges while maintaining intimacy?How does active listening contribute to creating a safe and supportive space for emotional expression and vulnerability, thus strengthening the intimacy between partners?Hosts EJ and Tarah address the obstacles that hinder active listening in relationships, exploring how distractions and internal dialogue can affect communication during stressful times. Through candid conversations and interactive exercises, the hosts offer valuable guidance in creating an environment where both partners feel heard, understood, and emotionally supported. This insightful episode equips listeners with practical strategies to foster a more connected and intimate relationship.Tune in to Relationship Renovation as the hosts explore the challenges surrounding active listening and provide essential insights and strategies to enhance communication and emotional support during challenging times. This episode offers valuable advice and engaging discussions that can help transform your relationship into a more fulfilling and connected partnership, even amidst challenging circumstances.Learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Dec 15, 2023 • 32min
151 - Holiday Edition: Connecting Deeply Despite Seasonal Stress (Family and Money)
Are you struggling with setting healthy boundaries during holiday family gatherings?Do financial pressures and gift-giving expectations during the holidays cause tension in your relationship?How can you stay connected and supportive of your partner amidst the hustle and bustle of the holiday season?In this episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts EJ and Tarah delve into the complexities of managing couple dynamics during the festive period. This episode deals with relatable situations and offers practical advice on navigating the gift-giving imbalance and achieving inclusivity among both families. With the mission to nurture healthier relationships during a chaotic time, EJ and Tarah provide insight into effectively communicating expectations and differences, particularly around delicate issues like holiday spending.Learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Dec 8, 2023 • 25min
150 - Navigating Stress and Emotions Together: Relationship Renovation - Holiday Season Edition
How can couples manage the distribution of labor and balance self-care during the holiday season?What are the common stressors and dynamics couples face during the holidays, and how can they navigate and support each other through these challenges?What strategies and techniques can couples use to stay connected and mindful during the festive season while maintaining wellness and intimacy?In this episode of Relationship Renovation, EJ and Tarah dive deep into the unique challenges couples face during the holiday season and provide expert guidance on staying connected and emotionally attuned to each other. They tackle essential questions, such as how to manage the distribution of labor and foster self-care while navigating the festivities. Tune in to uncover practical strategies for balancing responsibilities, setting intentions, and taking actionable steps to alleviate stress and ensure a fulfilling holiday season for both partners.With a focus on understanding the amplified dynamics and stressors that can impact relationships during the holidays, EJ and Tarah explore ways to maintain connection and support each other and address areas of potential tension. By sharing their experiences and insights, they offer valuable advice on restructuring patterns, fostering open communication, and creating a shared vision for a connected and fulfilling holiday season. Listen to this episode to gain valuable tips for intentionally navigating the festive season and building a stronger, more connected partnership during this potentially stressful time.Learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Dec 1, 2023 • 32min
149 - The Silent Partner: Encouraging Expression in Love
How can couples improve emotional intimacy when one partner is less expressive?What are effective communication strategies for less expressive individuals in relationships?Why is emotional safety crucial for maintaining a strong connection in a marriage?In this episode, EJ and Tarah delve into the intricacies of emotional safety and expression within intimate relationships. Through a heartwarming excerpt from a couple's therapy session, they explore the journey of a less emotionally expressive male partner who steps into vulnerability and the positive ripple effect it creates in his relationship. Our hosts unpack trust and communication's crucial role in fostering secure attachments and the common pitfall of misinterpreted needs that often steer couples toward separation. With a focus on creating an inclusive space for both partners to be heard and understood, EJ and Tarah offer practical advice and effective communication strategies, including using "I statements" to invite connection rather than provoke defensiveness. This episode is a must-listen for anyone yearning to deepen their relational bond and transform their partnership through emotional attunement.Learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Nov 24, 2023 • 27min
148 - Repetitive Arguments: Unveiling Emotional Triggers and Personal Growth Opportunities
How can repetitive arguments with my partner be transformed into opportunities for growth in our relationship?What are some practical tools and strategies for de-escalating and resolving conflicts in a relationship?How can establishing and respecting boundaries help improve communication and trust in a relationship?How can understanding and addressing attachment styles (e.g., anxious and avoidant) contribute to a more secure and satisfying relationship?In this episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast, hosts EJ and Tarah address the common challenge of repetitive arguments that escalate between partners. They offer practical tools to navigate these difficult moments and emphasize the opportunity for personal growth within the relationship. Listeners will gain insights into setting and respecting boundaries, using a code word to address emotions, and understanding the dynamics of different attachment styles. Whether you're seeking advice on reconnecting after a breakup or seeking ways to strengthen your relationship, this episode provides valuable guidance for couples and individuals alike. Tune in to better understand yourself and your partner, and learn how to build a secure and loving connection. To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Nov 17, 2023 • 29min
147 - Curiosity vs Reactivity: How to Foster Emotional Safety and Strengthen Your Relationship
1. How can curiosity instead of reactivity improve my relationship?2. What are effective ways to handle difficult moments with my partner?3. How can I create emotional safety and attachment with my partner?4. What are some practical strategies for building a stronger and more loving relationship?In this episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts EJ and Tarah delve into the topic of curiosity versus reactivity in relationships. They explore how difficult moments can often lead to more conflict and how approaching those moments with curiosity instead of reactivity can strengthen the emotional bond between partners. They share personal anecdotes and practical tips for embracing curiosity, understanding each other's instinctive responses, and finding ways to support and regulate each other's emotions. Listeners will learn how to navigate complex emotional situations, foster emotional safety, and create long-lasting, fulfilling relationships.To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands